Well, this is different 😶

She told me she hasn't been interested in a man in years. She's switched to only women because the thought of being with a man started grossing her out. At least until seeing me again.

She's saying she's curious again & due to what I'm going through, she feels bad that her mind is in the gutter.

It seems like we both still have strong feelings for each other & we're not really sure if we should do something about it or not. It kinda feels like she's saying these things to encourage ME to be bold & make the first move but I can't really tell lol. Part of me is also like "wait.. if she likes women now I probably wouldn't be good enough for her 😅"
I'm sure most people would tell me "dude you're an idiot. She's into you" but I'm always somewhat doubtful about when a woman really wants me or not lmao

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ninalanyon · 61-69, T

Surely the decision simply depends on whether you and she are just intending to have some fun together with no expectation of a permanent relationship or fun as a prelude to a lasting relationship.

There are pros and cons for either one of course but perhaps you are overthinking it. Just make your desires clear to her before you jump into bed together :-)

She might not want you forever but you both might have some fun just now. And as for being good enough, well you'll never know if you don't take the plunge.

The same goes for whether or not she really wants you; no need to be doubtful just ask straight out.

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@ninalanyon That's very sound advice.

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@FreddieUK I think that must be the first time anyone has said my advice was sound! In this field at least. :-)

FreddieUK · 70-79, M

@ninalanyon Well, credit where credit is due. You might be a bit like me: good at giving advice and equally good at ignoring your own. 😂

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@ninalanyon I overthink everything 😂 but yeah I think I would be okay with having fun just for now. Because I know we'd still stay friends afterwards. When we were young it was always romantic between us & we had sex on/off but our friendship always held a higher importance to us. Whenever either of us started dating someone, we would go back to keeping it friendly between us lol.

A relationship honestly seems a little scarier still since we've never done that together & of course I JUST got out of a relationship. & It's not like it was just a BS relationship, it's my kid's mom 🤷 I think if we did mess around though... We'd probably just be experimenting if we COULD possibly be in a relationship together. Which seems okay to me. We're both very self aware & we've always been good at being honest with each other

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@FreddieUK

equally good at ignoring your own.

You have me all figured out!

ninalanyon · 61-69, T

@ChiefJustWalks Then go for it! Full steam ahead! :-)