This is interesting. I think reading this just caused me to have an epiphany.
Some people are just more emotional than others.
It's just a simple fact of life.
I never used to, until now I think, understand the self-harm thing. My daughter went through this, or may still be dealing with it in some fashion. But I remember trying to understand and failing miserably.
But for some reason just a few seconds ago it all became so clear.
I think the people that hurt themselves when they are feeling overly emotional are internalizing their anger. I will go with anger because I can relate it more closely to my own life.
Then the other side of that are the people who lash out when they feel those emotions. Whether it be anger, grief or something that they feel strongly about.
So to be a little less vague so as to try to explain all that gibberish I just wrote I will get a little more specific.
When my daughter is feeling overly emotional she hurts herself. When I am feeling overly emotional something is going to get broken or someone is going to get the flash of those emotions in some manner. This doesn't matter what emotion I'm feeling just anything that I feel extremely emotional about.
I think the result is the only difference.
With me, if I am mad then something gets broke. If I am hurt, something gets broke.
So maybe I can actually not only understand but relate closely to what my daughter and you are going through.
So something I learned in anger Management might help.
We can't control what we think. We can only control what we do.
I think the whole healthy outlet thing is kind of bs.
Like when you feel anger punch on a punching bag. The punching bag isn't what or who I am pissed off at so how is that going to help? But then again the television isn't what pissed me off either but that does help.
Thank you for sharing this. Even though it might not have been your intention when you wrote this, I think this has helped to solve an issue that I have had for quite some time.
