Why are you doing this to yourself? If you know it hurts you why can't you let it go?

For me when I’m in these situations I know apart of it has to do with my self worth and value. But, also the fact that I’m holding on to the story that they were meant to stay in my life. I hold on to them, and the memories as if they were going to be the one and I’ll never experience anyone like them. When in reality it wasn’t that great to begin with. Instead, I have to focus on losing that loyalty and commitment towards them and come to the terms that I deserve a much better story for myself. If you don’t lose that loyalty and commitment towards them you will continue to believe that there will not be something better for you or you may have an attachment to this person to where you feel like this person needs to be the person to meet your needs even if they can’t. Until you come to the realization that it wasn’t for you and there are plenty of other people out there who can fulfill and meet your needs it’ll be hard to move on from that.

Nanori · F

Problem is when we're in those situations of not being able to let go is because we either don't know our worth or don't know when to let go and that usually comes from us counting the pros and cons of said situations or person in an attempt to see if it's worth us or not, which is a mistake, we just gotta come to a conclusion to realize 'it' is not 'suitable' for us. It's simple as that.

thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

If it means anything, I think there are people into their eighties who can express the same thing, but I'll note they might find other answers than frail understandings of when we are young that we do this... but what the heck do I know?