Have you ever been told that you're too much?

@poisonouscupcake but it's equally painful if not more when you can't be all that you are

@JestAJester true, i guess i haven’t gotten to the accepting part yet😬

@poisonouscupcake Based on many of these responses it has helped me re-evaluate myself and even gain back some confidence. I realized that even though my high strong personality and antagonistic nature is overwhelming at times, I am happier when I am able to do so. If I am able to genuinely laugh and smile, thats all I need

@LucyFuhr but what if the way that you are is preventing you from making any real connections with people?

@JestAJester Herein lies the crux. I could very well be the way I am in an effort to keep from making connections.

We're both similar in the "too much" aspect but in two different places on that spectrum. I've also got at least 25yrs on you and I've made more connections than I want LOL

It also depends on what you mean by too much. If you trust the people who are saying it, maybe it's worth some consideration.

@MoonlightLullaby
[quote] purges its emotional word vomit.🙄
[/quote] I love that lol

you open up to me at your leisure. Its not annoying in the least, I enjoy conversation. Everyone is guilty of selfish, self satisfying actions. Everyone is guilty of doing something stupid. You can't take back what you did, so what matters is what you do later. What matters is, are you ashamed of what you did? Are you atleast trying to be better? Guilt and remorse are handy little tools for making ourselves better people. Trust me I am no Saint whatsoever. I'm not a criminal but neither do I walk on water.

@Ghostinthemachine [c=004A59]Oh, I am well aware of my faults. I'm always striving to improve in some way, and honest enough with myself to know that I need to take small steps...and sometimes, those small steps aren't going to be enough for someone else.[/c]

@SW-User I wish you all the best on your endeavours

@SW-User sounds like my mindset. A bit pessimistic but hopeful and humble

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout we were all afraid of your Reality, but huddled under authority, and some of of us secretly whispered among ourselves: 'Who is that guy"? He is the guy that warned us about it all', I reply...he is You, TheOneyouwerewarnedabout...

@MoonlightLullaby i dont know how it is for you but generally im labeled as the bad guy. Like there is something seriously wrong with me. That I'm the problem, that I am the one that needs to change. Though I do not disagree that is worth my while to "evolve" but change suggests transforming my character entirely

@JestAJester I've gotten that plenty of times , and even foolishly apologized when no apology was to be given on my part. Screw those types and stick to your own kind, one's that appreciate you for YOU because there's nothing wrong with you to begin with. We all have room for improvement but NEVER change your character to meet someone's ideology of who they think you should be. Keep your circle small and don't allow people to paint you as a monster if you really aren't one

@MoonlightLullaby seems to be the ones I encounter are of the liberal persuasion. They are generally the quickest to criticize and demonize

@Piper Really ? 🙁

@JestAJester That's my experience too. ☹️ They say I don't talk much and need to open up... Then when I finally talk, they're like, "Gosh stop already."

😐

@JupiterDreams Its all of me or none of me kind of thing. its frustrating. I just got told the same thing by my one and only friend and it hit harder than usual. so what I should I do? Keep my mouth shut and mind my own business? what do you do?

@JestAJester Personally I just distance myself 🤗

@DeluxedEdition [c=004A59]True. It can be said jokingly or even as a sort of compliment, depending on context. Being called "not enough" isn't usually ever good.[/c]

@Spoiledbrat But he did marry you after all. Despite having personality quirks he doesnt care for, he saw things in you he liked and overlooked things he didnt like right?

Yes @JestAJester

@Justmeraeagain [c=004A59]Same, and they say it as if it's such a terrible thing.[/c]

@atlantic59 like digesting dirt

@empanadas too much gut for them to handle

@SW-User triple D's man boobs swinging everywhere

@RogueLoner to me I can't help but think it's a massive compensation or there is an ulterior motive