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I Want To Be A Much Better Person Than I Am

Is it the world or is it me? Why do I feel the need to be better? If I was alone on an island, would I still want to be better or is this just about what I think I should do to keep up with the expectations of those around me...who am I even? Am I just layers of what I should be and do and think? How do you find yourself in the mess of what you have been told to want and do and think all your life?

We're always caught in the odd situation of being told to be ourselves ( like anyone knows who that is) but to follow the rules (not be yourself). Maybe that's why the world is turning into a big stage for validation...doing it right is getting upvoted. It's a circus and it doesn't matter if it makes you happy, so long as everyone else approves. I can only think this will take us further from ourselves and make us all reliant on validation to fill the hole.
xCoinx · 31-35, M
The interesting question is if you were alone on a deserted island could you be said to have a personality?
GwydionFrost · 56-60, M
@xCoinx It's why I dig the Jefferson Bible so much. Tommy J decided one day that he was going to just cut all the superstitious nonsense from the New Testament, and see if the story and message still worked.

Claimed it to be the most perfect philosophy he'd ever read, once he took the fairy tale elements away.
xCoinx · 31-35, M
@GwydionFrost Yea I heard about that, apparently what he was left with was fairly scant.

No but there was this one early theologian prior to the fundamentalist movement who said maybe the purpose of religion is to move to a state where god is no longer necessary and all the morals can be internalised and there will be heaven on earth, I could get behind that. Unfortunately then I had to ask, but what of the soul?
GwydionFrost · 56-60, M
@xCoinx Aaaahhhh! You mentioned the sticking point for them!
Casheyane · 26-30, F
It is evident that the need for validation is becoming the trend in society. It has its perks and downsides.

I believe it is important that one be true to herself/himself. I know it can be extremely difficult to meet people's expectations of you. But along the way, I learned you can be practical. You cannot change others but you can change yourself. You need to find that line where you can be true to yourself without being too disappointed if you couldn't change others. You can hope and try to influence them if you think it can do good. But some people honestly don't want to change. It is useless to fight a battle of trying to change a person who doesn't want to change.

I think it's a good thought to ask if you'd still want to be better if you're alone in an island. For me it's a yes. Because there's always room for improvement. You're still you, wherever you are, whatever you do. You just need to decide what kind of person you wanna be and do everything you can to be it. No questions asked.
ZenKitzune · F
@Casheyane I wonder if you would have anything to measure yourself against, were you alone. Do our insecurities exist without comparison?
Casheyane · 26-30, F
@ZenKitzune Actually, I think it's typical for girls to feel jealous. But then the real competition isn't really other girls. But yourself. I know it's easier said than done. But take facebook for example, people tend to feel down by comparing their lives to those who seemed happier than them.

Maybe you can look at this way. Look at yourself in the mirror. Remember the last things you did that made you regret. Then tell yourself you could be more beautiful and do something to be it. And then the next time, make sure you do a different thing so you wouldn't regret. The best solution I think is to know yourself, that you're loved. You're a daughter of God. And I have no idea if you believe Him, but it's like having someone to back you up. It means you're designed for something, something good. And it can give you strength to better yourself. To know you are loved, so you can love yourself and others.
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ZenKitzune · F
@Feuerwehrmann I think the older you get the more entangled you get..I can't walk away from kids and bills...even though there are times I want to.
DIMaverick4 · 41-45, M
This is a good deflection. I have a lot of thoughts on this just not peace of mind right now to jot it down. Will write to you on this thread soon
ZenKitzune · F
@DIMaverick4 please do.
MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M
God put it in your heart.

 
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