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Why is he really nice and happy to talk to me and then tries to avoid me?

This has been going on for a while. He is a bit older, we see each other outside quite often and we never used to talk just watch each other. Until finally we started greeting eachother, laughing, talking, asking things and getting along. I was so sure he likes me, his eyes seemed interested in me for a year. His face lights up when I talk to him and he really pays attention to what I say but he has his guard up and wont flirt or be playful with me. If i try to be playful he gives me a funny look his eyes get bigger and he tries to change the subject (and I'm an introvert i don't flirt) anyway some days he's seems to really like me and others he keeps his distance, acts anxious avoids me won't even look at me and even seems a bit angry and wont even talk to me, like a vicious cycle. I asked him if I was bothering him and he said "no of course not don't be silly." So why all the anxiousness, avoiding me, one day nice one day rude, one day very interested next avoiding, one day open one day closed. Long question but I would appreciate some advice.
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Virgo79 · 61-69, M
I'm guessing he's married, his off days may be when she's around.
But who knows
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 what does that say about him as a person? he seems interested in me but conflicted in how to be with me.
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy maybe he's just sociable and doesn't want conflict with his wife.
Maybe he's a cheat and afraid he'll get caught.
And any number of other things.
It's probably something well never know.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 everybody seems certain he has a wife but I dont even know. Is it that obvious?
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy obvious? I dont know if that's the right word, but I suspect it.
But without knowing I could be wrong.
You should just ask, then you'll know.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 yep suspect is correct, he doesn't want to say the words but he won't lie if I ask. I will celebrate the day I just come right out and ask and get an answer even no answer will be an answer because I will be studying his body language like the fbi lol
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy you'll know if you ask😊
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 the thing thats held me back from asking is it's a personal question and he might think I have no right and/or he might then know for sure I like him and not feel the same like I got the wrong impression but I'm not crazy he does like me even if he denies it
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy just ask,how are you and your wife🙂
I know you can act innocent😌
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 Oh I am but he sees right through it whenever I get close and personal he gives me a look like wide eyed smirk (imagine the photo has wide eyes)[image deleted]
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy um I wouldn't like that look,lol
Is he messing around with your mind?
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 This was our most recent interaction

(I walk in his direction, hes standing there looking at me)
Me: Hello
Him: (nod)
Me: how are you?
Him (steps off to the side a bit and doesn't answer)
Me: "how was your easter holidays?"
Him: (looks back at me and away)
Me: (louder) are you good? yes? no?
Him (says nothing)

we were in a lightly crowded place with people listening but come on I am not pushy but he is forcing me to be. He is always staring at me and trying to get close and so excited to talk to me and laugh with me and talk personal when we are alone but he never flirts. He also has tried to "accidently" touch me a couple times. I don't get his mood swings!
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 oh god, please dont say that! did you imagine wide eyes on his smurking face?
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy that's kinda strange.🤨
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy yea, it's just kinda spooky to me,but you've met him
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 imagine shes a man, if we are talking and i act friendly and I'm [image deleted]laughing he gives me this look
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy lol, who knows.

I mean what does that even mean
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 i need your wisdom, what does a wide eyed smirk mean like the woman photo when a girl you're talking to is acting playful? be honest
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy I honestly dont know, and them not saying anything.
Does he have a big knife and a torture chamber😂
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 its like a cheeky look and if that look had words, it would sayyyyyy.... (come on think!) "you don't want to go there" ????
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 I'm dying lol hilarious! that's what it means! "you dont want to go there... to my torture room"
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
if im laughing like girls do you know hehe cute flirt tease, he gives the wide eyed smirk and backs away and so I quickly change the subject like "so..." and he acts normal again. Wait! did I just get rejected?! is that what rejection looks like?!
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy maybe he's scared of you😂
Or really shy
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 you think so! thats adorable then
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
@SweetFantasy I dont know but its possible.
SweetFantasy · 26-30, F
@Virgo79 I was just thinking about what you said and he could be intimated by me. Looking at me would you be intimidated?