Serious Question. Would you divorce your significant other is they refused to go down on you?

I don't usually answer questions about sex, but it does seem to me that in a marriage sex is very important.

When one partner flat out refuses to give of themselves, it's like shutting a door and leaving your spouse out in the cold. What is the spouse supposed to do for the rest of his or her life? Go to other people for pleasure or that type of comfort?

What this highlights is another major problem in the marriage...selfishness and unwillingness to try , or even to compromise. If this condition was well known before the marriage...one would wonder why the marriage took place.

I was going to break up with someone for that very reason, I have a very healthy sex drive and if we’re not compatible there then honestly there’s no point.

I don’t think that was her reason for anything. I feel like she likes the horribly personal nature of it and the shock value, but she simply can’t commit. Tried it on and it didn’t fit. My first husband was like that too - they like the sound of it all until they realize there’s some work involved and it’s not all about them. It’s awful just now I know, and my heart hurts for you all, but if she’s backing clean off and washing her hands, it might be nicer in the long run without her doing the revolving door and confusing the crap outta the kids. Your boy can give them love and stability and I bet someday he’ll find someone who can love them all. I hope the worst of it is soon passed. 🤗🤗🤗

If sex is the only thing holding you together there have got to be more issues than oral sex. Thats so petty.

No. But I'd invite her to SW and show her what the other degener^tes are up to.
Perhaps a beejay wouldn't sound so bad after that

No, I feel that is a petty reason to divorce someone. I'd rather give than receive anyway.

I would be deeply unhappy if my boyfriend did not go down on me.Oral is important to me and I have a very high sex drive.I don't know if I would toss him away because of it.I can get oral from other men.My boyfriend does go down on me.

No. That should be a matter of personal preference. There are other ways to please someone. If the spouse doesn't understand that, then there's the problem.

Personally, I am not able to do that, as it brings back painful memories from a rape I experienced. There have been many times I've tried, but after a few minutes, I'll be in tears, having been haunted.

Luckily, I have a spouse who understands that and doesn't want me to do that to myself. Of course, he enjoys it for the couple of minutes I can give that to him, but he certainly doesn't want me to continue if I can't.

I couldn’t be with someone who wouldn’t do all kinds of intimate and fun things with me. Especially oral I can’t go without it.

No, I'd just refuse to go down on them. And if they tried to force me, I'd bite it, then I'd divorce them.

Nah....... i have been with several women who would give me sex every single night, but, they didnt like suckin it. Im okay with that. I probably wouldnt want to suck it either. LOL as long as they are takin care of Crush Daddy, they aint gotta worry bout it.

i suppose one could end up married without knowing this would be the case. seems remote, tho, given you can discuss these things beforehand, even if you don't have sexual relations before the wedding day. people tend to naturally age-out of their sex lives in a very long-term marriage, so hopefully they're giving other aspects of their union even more attention in order to build a bond stronger than one built solely on sexual satisfaction. it's also important to realize marriage isn't any guarantee one will have the sex they want, when and how often they want it. in any case, a couple going through this should seek counseling before divorce, esp if there are kiddos.

In some sense sex isn’t that important in a relationship. Intimacy is. So the question for me isn’t as much if my partner is into a special set of sex acts. It’s a question of whether they are willing to be intimate.

That was sort of a thing with my late wife as we had some sexual limitations due to health issues. It’s when the intimacy disappeared that we went down the tubes. Except I was too nice of a guy to admit it.

I know people who have partnered just for sex. The best blow job in North America only goes so far imho.

A couple of questions: Are there other issues besides the denial of physical pleasuring? Have they discussed this, either with or without a counselor? I don't mean just a sex counselor.

I'd not be too bothered. However, if they refused to let me go down on them there would be an issue.

No, absolutely not. A long-term relationship (includes marriage) is based upon, at least for me, too many things for one facet/act of sexual satisfaction to be the make or break point.

I would think, even suggest there is more going on than the lack of a partner providing a single oral element of sexual satisfaction.

Comes down to obedience. Yes.

Your nearly ex daughter in law is likely a lesbian.
Not bisexual. Using the bisexual label is often the first step toward coming out as gay. It seems easier for many people.
I may be mistaken, but im fairly comfortable in my assertion. Ive seen it many, many times.

No I wouldn't.

Just for that reason alone, and everything else was fine? Absolutely not. It’s absurd. I’d say it’s an excuse, and there is something more going on.

Yes. My mum was with an arsehole. The lack of oral sex was just the tip of the attitude problems he had with women. If someone is turned off by that aspect of a woman’s body then chocolate isn’t going to fix it, and it would be ultimately damaging for a woman’s self esteem. Most of us don’t orgasm through vaginal sex alone, so it could end up unsatisfying fast.

Like they used to but then stopped?

Or they never did and youhad high hopes

No, I wouldn't divorce him for that. However, he's never refused, so I haven't been faced with that decision.

OMG I can’t imagine that ever happening. I love it too much.

No. That would not be a problem for me. Too many other good things to do.

Kids nowadays

No

No

{@:montanaman] 🤫divorcing someone because of this i thing is rather drastic .a marriage works on respect and if they find that idea repulsive you need to accept that

No. But if my spouse refused any sexual activity at all I think I’d probably need either a divorce or permission to have other partners.

Newsflash -. You're not that significant to each other. Get a world class performer.

No. That isnt important to me. Man thats nothing.

Haha no, im sure when the time is right theyd get in the mood. If they dont thats fine, i dont care much for blowjobs either way.

It sucks when your partner refuses to do things like that. I think it probably translates to others things too.