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Do you maintain contact with any of your ex’s ?

Would you be okay if your partner maintain contact with their ex’s?

Some people see it as disrespectful while in a relationship to continue contact with an ex others don’t see it as a problem. What’s your personal opinion on it if you were in this situation?

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SW-User

No because it always was messed up and lots of negative feelings involved, bad situations so wasn't worth it at all and wouldn't have lead anywhere anyway

Stark

@SW-User would you be okay if your partner maintain contact with their ex’s ?

SW-User

@Stark depends of the relationship they had, some relationships are important and others not. Specially if they developed strong feelings. If it wasn't important I wouldn't mind it

Stark

@SW-User That’s a good point. There are some relationships that had very little meaning and sentiment towards them.

SailorMarz · F

It depends. Like if it's just a passive you just have them on FB thing and like to see how they're doing every now n again thing, then I get it. Sometimes ex's do realize they're better off as friends and things end amicably.

But if they are speaking on a daily basis like besties, that's weird. And I wouldn't like it.

Stark

@SailorMarz idkkk. I think it depends for me 😂. I probably wouldn’t mind as much if they were just friends on social media and just within passing but deep down I probably would be like WHY DO U NEED TO SEE HER 😡 ONLY SEE ME

ElizabethBennetBot · 46-50, F

Nope. There’s no reason to stay in touch with an ex unless children are involved. Thankfully I do not have children and I don’t date men who have children. So I don’t maintain contact with any of my exes and I won't date men who stay in contact with their exes. I know I've drastically reduced my dating pool but I also know myself and what I want.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

This question seems familiar 🤔😂

But nah, I never keep in touch with exes. & Yeah I'd see it as disrespectful asf for a partner to keep in contact with someone they used to fuck & say they love but maybe that's just jealousy speaking 😅

Stark

@ChiefJustWalks lol yeah It is 😂 but I was just curious if people viewed it as rude or not.

Because I use to not see it as an issue considering I ended on good terms with most of my ex’s and then I saw this video where they were saying it’s disrespectful to your partner. So, I was like damn that does make sense.

FloorGenAdm · 51-55, M

Playing with fire. 🔥🤸

adobo ·

i just recently unfriend and blocked him on everything that I probably should have done long ago.
I don't even think it's a good idea for me to even be connected with him in anyway since it ended weird. lol

DHggmu · 31-35, M

I guess it depends on how the relationship ended, I’m not sure that civil breakups are normal for most, but if there is a mutual understanding between them then I don’t see why it would be much of a problem. Also depends on if they have children together etc, then it’s kinda required.

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DHggmu · 31-35, M

@Stark Yeah but you never know what’s going on in their head, maybe they really hate it but don’t want to say. It’s a complicated one.

Stark

@DHggmu True, I personally wouldn’t be okay with it now as I’ve gotten older and gain a whole new perspective on the situation. But, at one time I was okay with it because I didn’t see it as an issue considering I would do it and often times ended on good terms with my ex’s. But, as I’ve gotten older I realized the ones I maintain contact with and still interacted with on a regular I still had feelings for or they still had feelings for me. Because, for me personally going from dating to friendship doesn’t seem practical especially if there was a lot of intimacy involved. It’s one thing to be casual acquaintances maybe but other than that I think there maybe some hidden feelings underneath.

DHggmu · 31-35, M

@Stark You know what, I’ve gotta say you’re right. There’s always going to be some kinda feelings on one side or the other.. so always some potential to screw up a current relationship.

BigImo · 22-25, F

I pretty much always stay friends with my exes. It's convenient to be friends with them in case I wanna fuck them again

MasterLee · 56-60, M

Some yes. Others there was a good reason I dropped them.

SUPERVlXEN · F

I usually cut all ties when there's no turning back. As for a partner keeping contact I'd say context and circumstances is everything. I might be much more critical towards this today than I would have been five years ago. I guess rules to play by would be essential for me nowadays.

DragonFruit · 61-69, M

I'm a FB friend of one ex (who I haven't talked to in person or on the phone in years).
She's married with 5 children, and every once in a while she posts about a graduation or something like that.
It's actually been a while since one of us commented on the other's post.

Nadie

If it's a healthy, friendly relationship, I think it's fine. I am not capable of such things, so I have to break it off completely. The bf is capable of it though. His ex is married and has kids now and they still tall every now and then.

SW-User

I'm not in contact with any exes and I will probably keep it that way now on.
If that contact compromises what I have in the present, then it's not worth hanging on to. I hope he would feel the same way.

Viper · M

I'm single, yes I really but occasionally talk to my ex...

As for talking access and relationships I think it depends on the situation... such as one of my exes had kids, and they shared custody.

sspec

When one is in a relationship, nothing is about ME and everything ought to be WE.

Indulge in what both agree to collectively to sustain the bond for long.

SW-User

If you’re in a relationship I think it’s not okay. Why would you want to talk to your ex if you have someone new in your life?

Miram · 31-35, F

As soon as they finish building that castle for me, I won't talk to anyone anyone anymore except them and my many chandeliers.

11knaves11 · 41-45, M

I do not go looking for anyone but I'm not hard to find. Personally it would be hinged on how she treats me. I reciprocate.

wonkywinky · 51-55, M

No i think its wrong.It shows a kind of emotional immaturity.
Why then are you "ex" if youre still in contact?

checkoutanytime · M

When or if children are involved, a line of communication should remain open. At what level is subjective.

canusernamebemyusername · M

Been there and I never had a problem with it. Jealousy is such a toxic emotion.

Katie01 · F

I'm literally best friends with all of my exes apart from two

TheRascallyOne · 31-35, M

No i move on

DownTheStreet · 56-60, M

None.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

I do not. And, I did ask my gf not to stay in touch with hers, either. I don't see the point. You broke up, move on.

ViciDraco · 36-40, M

Most are on Facebook but we don't talk much. I don't really use Facebook much

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