I find it hard to believe that humans can be faithful to each other. The older I get the more I am finding this to be true. I do not think it is in our nature.
It's in our nature to (for guys) spread our genetic code amongst as many potential child bearing mates as possible (for women) mate with a number of different partners in order to have the greatest possible chance of better quality offspring. Monogamy is a concept that suits the social structure we created centuries ago - it was easier to "mate for life" when "life" was only 30-40 years of age at best (and often much less). Some people are able to be with one person all their life. Good for them, if it satisfies them; but having desires for other people is completely natural
Monogamy very much suits some of us at certain stages in our lives despite being unsuitable at other stages. So the stage of life you’re at is often very relevant.
It's about choice and doing the right thing..if you want to move on you finish a relationship before you start a new one if not you work at the one you're in..when temptation presents itself you just have to have the courage and morals to say no as well as respect for the person you're with.
@Sinnerwithaheart It is possible to be totally happy and monogamous with a suitable loving life partner. Keep working towards this. Good luck. You shall find it.
There clearly are differing opinions on this point. I think it is difficult for couples to even agree on the terms of a relationship, let alone live by them.
But you can’t speak to everyone’s nature and what others can [b]choose[/b] to do. The thing about [b]being[/b] human is that we make conscious choices all the time.
@bijouxbroussard Monogamy is a choice, and it works well for many people. However not every has tbe impulse control to stick with it, alternatively many people don't WANT to stay monogamous. It's a problem when a couple with different choices are trying to stay together. I know I couldn't be faithful to one person long term, so I refuse to get into long-term relationships becauyse it wouldn't be fair to the other person.
@voodoo1970 That’s fine, and I agree, it’s fair to let someone know going in, so that they can make an informed decision to get involved or not. I also let people know that I’m not looking for anything casual, because I know I want more.