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I Am Faithful

I find it hard to believe that humans can be faithful to each other. The older I get the more I am finding this to be true. I do not think it is in our nature.
midnightsun · 26-30, M
We are naturally designed to have multiple partners
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@bijouxbroussard Yes I understand that.
midnightsun · 26-30, M
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@midnightsun You just stop it now.
voodoo1970 · 51-55, M
It's in our nature to
(for guys) spread our genetic code amongst as many potential child bearing mates as possible
(for women) mate with a number of different partners in order to have the greatest possible chance of better quality offspring.
Monogamy is a concept that suits the social structure we created centuries ago - it was easier to "mate for life" when "life" was only 30-40 years of age at best (and often much less).
Some people are able to be with one person all their life. Good for them, if it satisfies them; but having desires for other people is completely natural
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@voodoo1970 Monogamy has outlived its purpose.
Crawgator · 56-60, M
@Sinnerwithaheart It had a purpose?
Monogamy very much suits some of us at certain stages in our lives despite being unsuitable at other stages. So the stage of life you’re at is often very relevant.
Primnproper · 56-60, F
It's about choice and doing the right thing..if you want to move on you finish a relationship before you start a new one if not you work at the one you're in..when temptation presents itself you just have to have the courage and morals to say no as well as respect for the person you're with.
voodoo1970 · 51-55, M
@Primnproper ^this
We are inclined to seek out the best possible mate, but that doesn't mean you have to seek them all out at once.

I mean, you can if you want to, but not everyone wants to. Whatever works 😊
I disagree. By this age, we value it so much. Our love is deeper. More satisfying. Intimacy is the best. And true love is our goal if single.
@Sinnerwithaheart Perhaps you will become one in the future. Be open minded. You know what you want. Work towards it.
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@PoetryNEmotion Oh I am.
@Sinnerwithaheart It is possible to be totally happy and monogamous with a suitable loving life partner. Keep working towards this. Good luck. You shall find it.
daveal · 56-60, M
There clearly are differing opinions on this point. I think it is difficult for couples to even agree on the terms of a relationship, let alone live by them.
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@daveal Yes I agree with you.
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Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@Greybare Some people actually believe in monogamy.
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Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@Greybare Thank you for the laugh. 🤣
SW-User
My Husband and I have been faithful to each other for 37 years, but we both had 1 one night stand each, 38 years ago, so you could be right.🤔
ms20182878 · 61-69, M
Oh my... I can definitely relate. Faithfulness doesn't come naturally for many of us.
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@ms20182878 I know it does not come natural for me.
But you can’t speak to everyone’s nature and what others can [b]choose[/b] to do. The thing about [b]being[/b] human is that we make conscious choices all the time.
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@bijouxbroussard Yes that is very true.
voodoo1970 · 51-55, M
@bijouxbroussard Monogamy is a choice, and it works well for many people. However not every has tbe impulse control to stick with it, alternatively many people don't WANT to stay monogamous. It's a problem when a couple with different choices are trying to stay together.
I know I couldn't be faithful to one person long term, so I refuse to get into long-term relationships becauyse it wouldn't be fair to the other person.
@voodoo1970 That’s fine, and I agree, it’s fair to let someone know going in, so that they can make an informed decision to get involved or not. I also let people know that I’m not looking for anything casual, because I know I want more.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
I believe this is very true.
Well stated
melbeacher · 56-60, M
It is not in our nature.
SW-User
so are you married now or? have you succumbed to the need? :)
SW-User
@Sinnerwithaheart not impossible but highly unlikely .. some manage to do it even if it makes them miserable
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@SW-User Then why do it.
SW-User
@Sinnerwithaheart oh I have no idea but it happens.. not with me.. I was a terrible husband .lol and I admit it..
SW-User
I don't believe the human race was made for monogamy.. just not easy to do
Sinnerwithaheart · 56-60, F
@SW-User No it is not.
I believe in monogomy
It can be done sucessfully

 
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