@Vivaci It sucks but it's comforting to know others have been through the same thing.
He definitely has some insecurities. Right now, I just feel so isolated with this.

@Faith13praise What about people who might suffer from PTSD and already have are semi-addict to gambling?

@StraightLacedLADY If your husband is semi addicted to gambling then the hooker is probably his version of rewarding himself after a night gambling his money away.

You should talk to your husband. Don’t judge him, don’t chastise him. Just ask him and listen to his answer.

@justanothername he's not my husband. He's now my ex boyfriend that has 3 weeks to move out. The decision was made before today. We can't talk, he doesn't want to talk about our issues, he won't even go to therapy.

@Max41 so the pretty and sexy face of a woman?

@MrBrownstone It was this little red bump at the base, I figured it was an infected hair folic... but it went away fairly quickly and hasn't happened again. He said we should use a condom though because it he didn't want to rub it raw.

@StraightLacedLADY Did you miss them? Don’t sell your intuition short. You kinda knew right?

@AlchemyFox You're right, I didn't miss them, I explained them away because I believe everyone is good until they give me a reason to believe otherwise.
If I stop hoping though that means there are more of those kind of people in the world and... that's heartbreaking.

@StraightLacedLADY heartbreak is unavoidable 🖤

@caccoon Yeah... that makes sense in my situation.

@Slade Don't tease me right now... I'm a little sad.
That did make me chuckle a little though 😊

@StraightLacedLADY sounds like you have made the right decision kicking him to the curb.

@StraightLacedLADY 🤗❤️

@hartfire Thanks. The most aggravating part is reading through that list and my brain still scrambling to find that satisfaction in understanding why while knowing it doesn't really matter.

@StraightLacedLADY
I think TheManHimself makes a good point.
A man who likes to visit sex workers is probably not going to stop until his testosterone drops below the threshold of desire - somewhere around 70-80 for the average man.
Realistically, you either accept the compromise in remaining with him, or you leave and create a new life.
I just hope you don't have kids to complicate the issue of stay or go.

@MrBrownstone That's awful... 😆

@Wiseacre Both men and women are equally as corrupt .
These men aren't sleeping by themselves if a [b] prostitute [/b] is involved. So squash the blame game. 🙂

@Zonuss not a blame game...TRUTH!

@zonavar68 I agree... its inconceivable to me, i don't undertand... just don't get it.

@Convivial eww both Madonna and a whore are disgusting. Just saying. ;-)

@SW-User Absolutely. I agree with everything you said. I constantly tell my self the same thing. However, I have this sadistic habit of believing the best in people, even if they can't see it themselves, and stick with people who ... may or may not deserve it because the mess doesn't really bother me, at first.
I'm a patient person, but eventually I can't handle the stress, aggravation, and heartache and just want to get away from it all.

@RebelliousSpirit After sleeping on it, it makes me wonder, what do I really deserve? If the majority of men have difficulty communication (which is a HUGE issue in my relationship) is it worth it to hang in there and fight through with him until we achieve something workable?
At the moment, I won't get to explore that because I don't intend on staying in any kind of relationship with out professional help. When I've mentioned it, he likes to dance away from it and never gives an answer expect to change the subject.

@Justenjoyit wtf 🤦‍♀️

@Justenjoyit That's so wrong... so very wrong... 😏

@redredred That's not my chosen username and if anything I've learned from here, the username doesn't mean squat.
Besides, do you how erotic and sexy straight laces can be... helloo...
I digress, to imply I'm prude based on my username is not fair assessment. In fact, I'm actually the care free open one in regards to anything goes between us as long as it stays between us. He's actually the one who thinks he has to hide his fetishes and desires. I can see them a mile away but give him what he needs when he's willing.
So... nope the issue isn't me.
I believe it's a childhood trauma that causes prostitutes to be a taboo of sorts for him. I've dressed up in a slutty prostitute like way just to test my theory and let's just say, it went over better than expected.

@Anielka That's a garbage reason for betraying someone.

@RebelliousSpirit yes it might be but it happens and I'm not saying it's right.

@Anielka I agree, in some relationships, that's a possibility...

@BigBulge Idiot

@BigBulge 🤣 He's not my husband he's an ex boyfriend that has a little over two weeks to get out my house. But if that's what guys want, I suppose B.O.B is always Energizer faithful.... 😆

@Gumbodidlo

Did you ever 'ring twice'?

@PatKirby the postman always rings twice 😁

@Gumbodidlo Always bro

@StraightLacedLADY You're trying to get me to say something I'll regret, aren't you?!

@SW-User I'm happy to ease the burden...

@StraightLacedLADY Thanks.

@GeorgeTBH...thanks but theres always two sides to every coin...

@StraightLacedLADY that is true but still....

@StraightLacedLADY Good that you dumped him. There is other guys out there for you. Better guys

@stound fair enough