Girlfriend is over reacting

Innocent or not, if you care for her, you have to take her feelings into account. You say she's over reacting, but that's your opinion. She isn't in her opinion and you can't make her feel your feelings. She's allowed to feel how she feels as you are yours. What you have to do, in any relationship is compromise. If you really love her, pull back on how you interact with others that she doesn't feel comfortable with. If you don't want to, then you really don't care as much as you say or think you do. That's my opinion.

It's all give and take on both sides and though you may think she's being unfair, guess what, she's probably thinking the same thing about you right now. Put yourself in her position, not with your thought process, but hers. Just a thought.

Even if you feel like her complaints have no solid ground...they are her feelings and you should acknowledge them. Maybe it is time to talk about boundaries.

Clearly she has boundaries. You talking about something personal like that to your female friend means you talk to her about personal things in your relationships ...this could be the underlying concern for your girlfriend. You touching another womans thigh is clearly something she feels uncomfortable with and something you should consider not doing because it makes her feel threatened in some way.


It all comes down to this: if you love her, you also respect her and if these things bother her you have to consider them as valid.

If your response would have been one of kindness and caring about your girlfriend's concern, then I might think she was over reacting, but since you get all defensive, justifying your actions, and discounting her feelings, then I say she has every reason to be upset and concerned about your relationship!

how are you so unaware of ur own trashiness

You specifically saying that you thought your girlfriend wasn't looking is kinda a red flag pal.

i dont understand the vibe bit

I think the vibrator story was okay but l dont think you should be touching other women, even innocently. You are responsible for your own reactions but cannot control how the other woman will interpret your touching.

Rather than anybody being right or wrong, and rather than this just being an 'over reacting woman' y,ou need to understand that her feelings are real and valid and could be part of something deeper. If you care for the woman it's worth asking questions that will get her to talk about it more.

You sure she's overreacting?

🤔 Nah, she ain't over reacting. Boundaries dude, she felt like you over stepped those. You need to respect her. If you don't and think "an innocent touch" of a female friends thigh isn't disrespecting her you may need to rethink things. Also, BIG red friggen flag when you said "I didn't know my gf was watching."

Cmon man. Do the gf a favor and dump her. You should be dating your female friend.

I'd be pissed off too if i was a straight girl and saw my man touching some other ladies thigh and putting his arm around her


There was no need for touching at all. My guy friends don't touch me that way. and if they did, i'd feel uncomfortable as heck.

It depends on how much respect you care to have for your partner. If she’s expressed that hurts her & you’ve decided that doesn’t bother you & continue to do as you please. It makes more sense for you two to be happy without each other.

Would you be OK with your girlfriend putting her arms around another guy at that same party and touching his thigh?

Damn