Is a 'sexless' relationship literally just no sex, or it is more/deeper?

I've had a sexless relationship in terms of no sex with my last LTR from before she became pregnant with our daughter, but I never really considered it meant anything tangible at the time. Looking back I still don't fully understand what 'sexless' means apart from - literally - no sex.

But it is more than that?

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HootyTheNightOwl

Physically, it is what it says on the tin... emotionally, you start having problems when other things dry up as well.

Once communication goes and you no longer talk about the things that matter to you - your relationship is doomed, though you notice other things dry up before that point... they become more distant and you lose the simple things that you might have enjoyed the most before. No holding hands, no hugging, no watching anything together, no eating together, no sharing a bed s/he'd rather sleep in a damn chair first.

"I love you" just becomes three empty words, said out of habit rather than something that really means anything. It comes as a surprise when you say it to someone else and you know that you really mean it.

Before long, you feel like two roommates, just passing each other on the way in or out and there's nothing of what you used to hae left anymore.