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Is a 'sexless' relationship literally just no sex, or it is more/deeper?

I've had a sexless relationship in terms of no sex with my last LTR from before she became pregnant with our daughter, but I never really considered it meant anything tangible at the time. Looking back I still don't fully understand what 'sexless' means apart from - literally - no sex.

But it is more than that?
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VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
It's classes as a sexless marriage if you have sex less than 10 in a year. I've been in that position for 18 months once upon a time so I was glad when it ended. Sex is the glue to any relationship. It's not just physical but helps mental connections too.
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zonavar68 · 51-55, M
@VirginMatchmaker I didn't know there was a legal or scientific definition. 8-) So then that means for almost all of my first LTR and definitely all of my second one (where my 3 yo daughter came from) has been 'sexless' as I know for certain that your measure of less than 10 times a year pretty much applies for all of my adult life except possibly 5 years (not all grouped together). If I discount my non-adult years (where there was no sex anyway) and factor in no relationships until late 20's, the average will be probably 1 time ever 3 to 4 months or longer. I'm different so I don't hide behind being a non-sexual dynamo like all men are supposed to be.
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
@zonavar68 yeah there is a defined definition of a sexless marriage or relationship. I think if I'd been sexless for most of my adult life then I'd have been looking for a new partner or partners. I left my first wife after we weren't having sex more than once a fortnight. My second wife had all her relationship's fail after sex issues. Initially there was lots but then it dwindled to nearly nothing for 18 months. I tried to make it work but it was always going to fail. Although me and my partner now have had big ups and downs there has always been plenty of sex. Her being 14 years younger helps too.