Question for the ladies

Is it true that a man becomes less attractive to you (physically, emotionally, sexually) when he starts being open about his feelings/emotions? Please be brutally honest, this is SW. In the fight that led to me breaking up with my ex, she mentioned something about this. That stung more than most of the other things she said. And honestly since then I feel like I've started to notice women reacting negatively to men who feel. Or making fun of them.

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ginnyfromtheblock · 26-30, F

i’ve never heard that before haha
men who aren’t afraid to get emotional are so hot

somedude15 · 22-25, M

@ginnyfromtheblock she made it really clear how irritating I was whenever I spoke about my feelings/emotions and how she'd just been enduring listening to me

ginnyfromtheblock · 26-30, F

@somedude15 she is definitely the problem then 💖 you deserve someone who loves you thru that

HootyTheNightOwl

I'd rather have a man who isn't afraid to be open with me than a cold, unfeeling robot. If I didn't want to deal with openness, then I'd marry a tree.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

When the time is right and the mood is right it is extremely attractive for a man to let his guard down and to be as raw and honest as possible and share his thoughts and feelings.

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Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

You never got the feels for somebody?@somedude15

somedude15 · 22-25, M

@Keepitsimple yeah I was just taking your original comment to mean that there are moments where it is the opposite (unattractive) for a man to share his emotions with you

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

Well yeah that happens too...like if he tells me he’s scared to walk from the car to the front door, lol@somedude15

Magenta · F

A little vulnerability and expressing himself is nice. It's part of emotional connection.
If it's over dramatic and he is prone to crying, it's a turn off for me.

somedude15 · 22-25, M

@Magenta but just a little huh. I mean I don't think I ever overdid it and definitely never cried but I guess I was too open.

Magenta · F

@somedude15 A little, as in moderation.
Aw. That doesn't sound over dramatic at all.
It's probably something within her, some inability.

marsbar · F

I become more attracted to men who are honest & open about their feelings. But it’s not just being open about their feelings; it’s also attractive when they’re engaging in conversation because they enjoy sharing things with me. Talking to a brick wall isn’t attractive.

SW-User

I prefer vulnerability

SW-User

I a gay man so I'll give my input. Definitely not. It's really unattractive when a guy doesn't open up about his feelings or emotions, it's a big red flag for me

pentacorn · F

not for me. i think she just said that to upset you during a fight, but maybe she is only attracted to emotionally unavailable men. there are women like that.

TheFlippantSide · F

Not at all. In fact, it's exactly the opposite for me.

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