Do we need to “accept” that we were rejected, after we were rejected, to “heal” the wound?

It’s been 4 yrs and it still bothers me. New unrelated rejections keep pulling it back up too. But how I was rejected is not okay i dont know if I could ever “accept” it like it’s “no big deal”. The memory hurts still....help??

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DownTheStreet · 51-55, M

To be rejected by someone doesn’t make you any less of person; it simply means you weren’t compatible with the person. The only way it makes you less is if somehow you ascribe a higher value to that person than yourself. It’s your choice.

VladG94 · 26-30, M

@DownTheStreet Which is why men like it when women don't ascribe men so much in a higher value, I'd likely say no to her if she does that to me.. There's a reason why men are known as the pursuers and the sexual predator towards women, when women do it to a man then it pretty much means that she wants something from him which makes her untrustworthy tbh.