So I have this... 'friend'

When I'm straight shooting with the way I speak to her she's okay but if I start joking around she runs away 🏃🏻‍♀️
So I've been trying not to joke around when speaking with her, but I feel like I'm holding back a part of myself - should I continue to hold that part of myself back to tend to her needs or shall I just be 100% me and if she doesn't like it she can go? Or do you suggest something else entirely?

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SW-User

If you're trying to "NOT" be you when you're around a person or you're trying to not say the wrong thing as you know how they'll react.. then this is a huge red flag.. run run run...

I feel the person you're talking about is the one with the issues and doesn't like you for who you really are, she just likes you when you are a certain way.. NO NO NO>. this is not OK

I have experience in my past with a man, If I said certain things it would annoy him and he'd get nasty with comments to me and then I'd find myself upset, trying to not say those things and trying to apologise for something that I don't really know what it was I did wrong..
Obviously that relationship was an absolute disaster..

Spoiledbrat · F

But he said he likes her. @SW-User

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat Well I missed that in what is stated above, nowhere does it state that he "likes her" in that way anyway,,,,, I would have just assumed that he does as he's calling her a friend.. and my advice isn't bad advice no matter whether he does or does not like her.

Spoiledbrat · F

No I mean he said he enjoys her company. @SW-User

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat A-ha , yes I get this, but to enjoy a person and have to be "fake" to be around them isn't really worth it.. Why be in a relationship/friendship with a person where you are always watching yourself and wondering and seconding thinking.. "did I say the wrong thing?, Is he/she in a mood with me because I said, this, that or the other... That every time there's the slightest disagreement you are wondering about the state of your friendship/relationship...

Obviously it's bother the O/P as he posted this question to get varying view points on it.

Spoiledbrat · F

He said she runs away when he jokes so maybe he should let her. That would be the answer then. @SW-User

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat I totally agree with you.. If it were me, next time she runs I'd let her go.

SW-User

@Spoiledbrat Or is it, that she loves to be chased?