So I have this... 'friend'

When I'm straight shooting with the way I speak to her she's okay but if I start joking around she runs away 🏃🏻‍♀️
So I've been trying not to joke around when speaking with her, but I feel like I'm holding back a part of myself - should I continue to hold that part of myself back to tend to her needs or shall I just be 100% me and if she doesn't like it she can go? Or do you suggest something else entirely?

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Magenta · F

Hmm, sometimes "jokes" come across as rude or maybe she takes them too seriously. Depends on [i]what[/i] you are joking about. It doesn't hurt to curb certain parts of our behavior for the sake of love or friendship, as long as you aren't having to stifle yourself too much, it's part of compromise. Maybe discuss it with her..??

TheGoodGuy · M

@Magenta I'm pretty sure it's not coming across as rude, I'm staying away from those kinda jokey digs with her 😁
I don't think discussing it with her is an option...
I think curbing for now will be the best option. I feel maybe she doesn't trust me enough yet so she's guarded.

Magenta · F

@TheGoodGuy Aah I see. Yes, perhaps she doesn't know [i]how[/i] to respond or react, hence the running away.

Sounds like a wise choice...when she knows you better/is more comfortable perhaps she will react differently. Best wishes! 😊

TheGoodGuy · M

@Magenta Maybe. Just have to see how it goes 😬
Thank you x