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So I have this... 'friend'

When I'm straight shooting with the way I speak to her she's okay but if I start joking around she runs away 🏃🏻‍♀️
So I've been trying not to joke around when speaking with her, but I feel like I'm holding back a part of myself - should I continue to hold that part of myself back to tend to her needs or shall I just be 100% me and if she doesn't like it she can go? Or do you suggest something else entirely?
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Sicarium · 46-50, M
If you're holding back because she can't handle it, that's not a friend.
Handle? Maybe she just doesn’t care for that side of him. @Sicarium
TheGoodGuy · M
@Sicarium I dunno, we do act differently in different circumstances and not all friends get to see the complete you... 🤷🏽‍♂️
Sicarium · 46-50, M
@TheGoodGuy Nah, there's a difference between adapting and conforming to better fit in and intentionally avoiding some aspect of yourself because a "friend" will get offended.
I prefer to think of it as personality clash rather than someone can’t handle something. I feel like that’s insulting. If one feels that way about a friend why be friends. If someone doesn’t like something that’s okay too. No two people need to be friends. @Sicarium
If the TWO of you don’t enjoy spending time together then why bother? @TheGoodGuy
I mean you like each other or you don’t. 🙄
Sicarium · 46-50, M
@Spoiledbrat What you feel is about you, not me. My word choice is mine, not yours. No offense, but I'm not going to play word games because someone would rather feel insulted over one word than deal with the whole idea.

And I never said any given two people had to be friends. Not sure where you got that from. Because I'm saying the exact opposite, a friend is someone you can be yourself around. That's rare. Which means real friends are rare.
I really feel like you’re repeatedly insensitive to other people. That’s why I commented to your reply to the poster. There’s no “word game”. I was just saying that you make it sound as if everyone has to bend over for you and they don’t anymore than you have to bend over for them. This site is great place foe discussion and that’s why I come here. I don’t come here to play word games. @Sicarium
Agree. @Sicarium
Sicarium · 46-50, M
@Spoiledbrat [quote]I really feel like you’re repeatedly insensitive to other people.[/quote]

I don't care if you feel that way. That's your interpretation, not mine. I don't know you, so I don't care about your feelings. And that shouldn't surprise you because you're clearly not concerned with mine. You have no reason to be.

[quote]I was just saying that you make it sound as if everyone has to bend over for you and they don’t anymore than you have to bend over for them.[/quote]

I've never said anything like that. So, no. Again, your interpretations, or misinterpretations, are on you, not me.

I'm blunt and I say what I think. Handle it or don't, that's your choice. Same goes for everyone else.
Okay bye @Sicarium
DiegoWolfe · 36-40
@Spoiledbrat it's funny for a guy who claims to not care what others feel or think that boy got butt hurt sure darn fast!
Sicarium · 46-50, M
@DiegoWolfe Me: "This is how I see things."

@Zebrawl: "This makes me feel this way so you need to change what you say, but you're the one who makes everyone bow to you."

Me: "No."

@MrDiegoWolfe: "OMG, that guy is so butthurt."

Me: "Welcome to Idiocracy, brought to you by a projecting troll who's still upset I wouldn't play his mental game."