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What should I do?

So, there's this guy that I've known for two years, and I always felt that there was something between us. Last year I really started to see it when we would meet up and talk for hours until the early morning. We just seemed to get each other. I could see it in his eyes how much he cared. Anyways, over the summer, we kept talking and made it quite clear that we were attracted to each other and wanted to do something about it. We came up with a ton of ideas for what we wanted to do together when we got back to school, and overall, it was going well.

When we got back to school, we met up and he asked if I liked hiking and suggested we go hiking together sometime. I also told him that I preferred white wine to red and he said "he'll change that." It appeared he wanted to play a more active role in my life. I even met some of his family at a rock concert he took me to. Because they thought we were dating and he called me "his girl," I thought we were dating. When I asked him what we were, he said he always thought we were just friends. And that despite the fact that he claims we have a connection and attraction, he said he wasn't looking for a relationship with anybody.

He said he's 110% okay with remaining friends, but gets jealous anytime I mention another guy. I really care for him and know that I couldn't engage in anything casual with him as it would hurt me if he got with anyone else. What should I do? I can't drop him completely from my life. Doesn't it seem like he's incapable of being friends too?
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kentex35 · 100+, M
Don't give up anything casually. He seems to say one thing and act another. Hard to guess. At first I was thinking shy, but for sure with this much info, I'm thinking he wants to be a player and if you take a chance he's already got an out like, "I told you from the beginning, just friends" Just keep your eyes open. And who said you can't have more than one to date regularly?
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@kentex35 I think he wants to theoretically be a player, but is failing because there are already some strings attached. Your thoughts?
kentex35 · 100+, M
@purpleemandem yes and to you. But he's trying to be cool maybe, I think. How does he act when you meet his friends or family?
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@kentex35 He didn't deny their suspicions and acted super affectionate around me. I had every reason to believe we were going down that route! He recently started hanging out with this questionable group of guys (players), and I think he figured it's unpopular to be in something committed. He used to not have many friends
kentex35 · 100+, M
@purpleemandem well be careful,that might be a sign too, not having many friends. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve. Not that I think you are/will, you seem pretty smart, just trust yourself. Don't shuck off the little things here, they might be more important than you expect. make sense? I'll tell you all the guy secrets I can, if memory doesn't fail me lol.
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@kentex35 I'd greatly appreaciate that :)
purpleemandem · 26-30, F
@kentex35 So what does no friends signify? He just struck me as someone so gentle and sentimental, and lately he's lost those qualities. Again, I think it's because of this toxic friend group and need to feel accepted