How would you politely tell your ex’s parents to stop sending you and your kids gifts?

They’ve been a huge part in our lives for 6 years. I love them as much as my own parents. But my ex has moved on and has hurt me so deeply. I’m struggling to cope with it all. But they live 5 hours away so i’ll probably never see them again. They sent us birthday gifts and each one hurt, reminding me of what I’d lost. I don’t want them sending Christmas gifts. But I can’t find the words to say goodbye either. I feel like I should explain as I know my ex won’t have said anything. They still don’t know why he got divorced.

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SW-User

If they love your children as grandchildren, then I would think the more people in their lives (the children’s lives) that love them, the better?

TexChik · F

They care deeply for you and certainly your kids ( their grandkids). You have a bond with them through your children. One can never have enough nice people in their lives and though they are the parents of your Ex , they are still good to you and your kids . Talk to them , treat them kindly and ask them what they would like to do. They love you and your kids ... don’t burn any bridges just yet . 😉. I’m so sorry you’ve been put through it like that 😕

Spoiledbrat · F

You could always send the back but that would probably make them feel bad. I think your best bet is to send them a note thanking them and explaining that although you appreciate the gifts it’s not necessary now. Or say the ‘kids’ love the gifts you sent placing emphasis there. I’m sure they mean well.

CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F

They care about you. Let them.

JanBos2 · 56-60, M

I guess your pain will not only 'arrive' by their gifts. Your pain is real and deep, but there will come a moment their love to your kids will be more important to your all while your ex slowly will disappear from your memory. Let them!

VeronicaJane

Sounds like a lovely relationship, except for the ex. Even more so that they still reach out to you.

Awkward if they don't know why yiu divorced. Have to also explain to the kids why grandparents stopped loving them.

Rhodesianman · 56-60, M

Tell them how you feel they will probably respect you for being honest with them and they should know .

SW-User

Are they his children?

Bleed · 41-45, F

No. We both had kids from our previous relationships. We lived together for 5 years. His parents treated us like family.

SW-User

@Bleed I think it's slightly better if they're not genetically his, however from what you've said lovely that they love them so much.
I would just be honest and say, sorry but this is just too painful.

JarJarBoom · 41-45, F

"stop sending my kids your shit"

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