Ever have someone keep trying to push themselves on you?

Like romantically, even if you've shown no interest and have told them you have none.. but they keep trying to get in your "space?" say things like how they feel you're some sort of "kindred spirit" and how they need to be with you. How would you personally deal with this type of situation?

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ninjavu · 51-55, M

Yes. I moved away (for unrelated reasons), and she followed. I gave in, hoping it would be a one-time thing. Eventually had to read her the riot act. 😒

DancingStarGoddess ·

@ninjavu oh wow, that sounds a bit creepy, even moving didn't stop them. 😶 Mine is just a guy who I met in a FB group who thinks we apparently are soulmates, but spends no real time getting to know me, regardless of who I'm with, whenever I go back to my regular page, or change my pic, he's there like he has an alarm or something.

ninjavu · 51-55, M

@DancingStarGoddess Yeah, cyberstalker I guess. Can you block people on FB? (I don't use it, so I don't know.) It's too bad that some people can't take no for an answer. I mean, Hollywood has romanticised not taking no for an answer, but come on, there's a limit! Especially when the person doesn't really know you, as it sounds with this guy. Like a lot of people, he has perhaps not fallen in love with you, but the idea of you and whatever you look like.

Hope you work out a resolution.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@ninjavu yes, you can indeed block people on FB. Yes it's a physical appearance thing, and a personality thing. (I'm extremely accepting etc) and he seems to feel he NEEDS to be with me. I just sort of wander off once he starts that nonsense. Something about him is unsettling to me. Idc why, and it's rare, because "mildly creepy" is a type I'm generally attracted to. Just he's something else.

ninjavu · 51-55, M

@DancingStarGoddess Well, sometimes intuition -- which is what "Something about him is unsettling to me" is -- should be listened to, and it sounds like you're doing that. In that sense my experience was different, as she wasn't "unsettling" to me and I knew her in person as we were neighbours. It was more the situation that was annoying, as she really was a nice person.