If your wife gets fat. Will you feel mad?

My husband changed after i gained weight. I am 5'3 183lbs i had a baby 2years ago and im currently aiming to be 124lbs by the begining of april. But for the past 2 years i watched my husband change on me just because of my weight. I kinda want to revenge dump him when i get fit before he leaves me. I know i shouldve stayed fit i feel bad but I was just so stressed and focussed on other things and the wrong things that I forgot about my health. Also part of me just wants to lose weight and just work things out with him. After i gained weight my husband barely comes on to me. Hes still kinda nice but he treats me like the fat friend who he cant be with. Lol its soo funny. Righy now im working out for me and juicing and i canr wait to be back to the size he met me at or a little smaller. Im losing weight for me and im slightly plotting on revenge.

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katied · 31-35, F

From your post, I think the person that's unhappy with your weight gain is you. I can understand it becomes an insecurity when you no longer feel attractive as were before and you might interpret things differently such as how your husband is treating you. Perhaps you're missing the moments from when you were both single and dating, any married couplewould tell you it's never gonna be the same especially with kids, some moments maybe but not as often n carefree as before. There are new responsibilities.
If you're unhappy with yourself physically, then it's great that you're working towards making a change. But focus on an outcome of good for you n not things that would likewise be hurtful to others. The fact that you keep mentioning dumping him n revenge are proof enough you're not doing it to bring out what's beautiful about you but so that you can use it to hurt somebody else