Do you have a list of traits that would make up your perfect partner?
Do you ever ask yourself if you are all the things on your list?
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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
Yes. I think we all have such a list, if only subconsciously. It's in recognition of that list where one can truly find a close enough match that can sustain the relationship.
If you do not have a set of certain parameters how can a relationship possiblity last? The incompatibilities would be far too great. Which is why I believe a good deal of relationships do not last to begin with.
Now as to whether I am the same things on my mental list. For the most part the two are the same. Though my mental list leaves a lot of room for variances.
Making my list to strict would leave little room to find anyone. What I find ironic is quite a few people have criticized me for certain aspects I have on my mental list. Even though I consider my list quite broad minded.
If you do not have a set of certain parameters how can a relationship possiblity last? The incompatibilities would be far too great. Which is why I believe a good deal of relationships do not last to begin with.
Now as to whether I am the same things on my mental list. For the most part the two are the same. Though my mental list leaves a lot of room for variances.
Making my list to strict would leave little room to find anyone. What I find ironic is quite a few people have criticized me for certain aspects I have on my mental list. Even though I consider my list quite broad minded.
ZenKitzune · F
@DeWayfarer I just see so many lists containing strict and high expectations of the other person, I can't help but wonder if such a person would be attracted to the person making the list to start with.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@ZenKitzune A strict list would just be impossible to match. Attraction might be possible at first since that is usually visible. Yet not for very long.
ZenKitzune · F
@DeWayfarer agree and yet people choose to do this to themselves. You might miss something great while looking for something impossible.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@ZenKitzune This discussion is "beginning" to fall in line with another.. Real world verses fantasy world. I believe it's possible that is one of the reasons such strict lists are made.
ZenKitzune · F
@DeWayfarer maybe they are doing it purposely to avoid the risk of getting hurt..
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@ZenKitzune That would be another of many. My meaning was is people prefer a fantasy rather than a reality. And so some make a fantasy list and hoping it becomes real.