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PatKirby · M
Trust is like a clear, transparent sheet of glass straight from the factory. No defects or failures in the glass. But once you get a crack in it - it's permanent and it will never be the same. The crack will always be there. This is what betrayal does to trust.
Once that trust is gone it will never be the same. May as well get a new relationship.
Once that trust is gone it will never be the same. May as well get a new relationship.
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
Not the kind of betrayal I have been through not only being cheated on but when your partner betrays you to law enforcement giving them all the information on everything you were doing and blueprints you cannot come back from that there is only one remedy for that situation
Honestly... I don't know anymore. I used to believe that you should run and never look back - but something in me broke in April.
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swirlie · 31-35
Absolutely YES! What's required however, is forgiveness to be extended for the benefit of yourself, not for the one who did all the betraying.
Forgiveness is not about forgiving the other person. Forgiveness is only about forgiving yourself for what you thought had happened ..and then allowing yourself to let it go completely ...and then set yourself free thereafter.
When you feel free of past trauma, forgiveness has remedied the situation.
Forgiveness is not about forgiving the other person. Forgiveness is only about forgiving yourself for what you thought had happened ..and then allowing yourself to let it go completely ...and then set yourself free thereafter.
When you feel free of past trauma, forgiveness has remedied the situation.
rinkydinkydoink · M
swirlie · 31-35
@rinkydinkydoink
Ah, but you already are that wise! You already have that wisdom in you, we all do! Some of us just need some encouragement to free our wisdom from our grip!
Ah, but you already are that wise! You already have that wisdom in you, we all do! Some of us just need some encouragement to free our wisdom from our grip!
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swirlie · 31-35
@LordShadowfire
It's not about forgetting what the other person is capable of, because you'll always remember that part for as long as you live. What you are forgetting is what they did to you, which is why the old saying goes, "forgive and forget". In other words, just forget about it.
When you go to a bank and declare personal bankruptcy, the bank "forgives" your outstanding loan, which means they just forget about it because you cannot pay them back anyway.
It does not mean they forget about it FOR NOW, but intend to come after you for it later.
Forgiving the loan means, forgetting about it. ... "IT" meaning, the current loan.
This does not mean the bank will turn around and let you do it to them again though!
It's not about forgetting what the other person is capable of, because you'll always remember that part for as long as you live. What you are forgetting is what they did to you, which is why the old saying goes, "forgive and forget". In other words, just forget about it.
When you go to a bank and declare personal bankruptcy, the bank "forgives" your outstanding loan, which means they just forget about it because you cannot pay them back anyway.
It does not mean they forget about it FOR NOW, but intend to come after you for it later.
Forgiving the loan means, forgetting about it. ... "IT" meaning, the current loan.
This does not mean the bank will turn around and let you do it to them again though!
LordShadowfire · 46-50, M
@swirlie That's the thing, though. I don't hold it against people. I just remember what they are capable of. People start out with a certain level of trust, and when they violate that trust, I'm very reluctant to give it back. That's not to say I won't still be their friend.
swirlie · 31-35
@LordShadowfire
I'm not one to preach biblical scripture, but there's a passage somewhere in the bible that says something to the effect that "if someone punches you in the face, turn the other cheek and let them smack you again", but then goes on to suggest that you forgive that person for trespassing (assaulting you), but don't ever put yourself in a position again to let them try that trick again.
I don't think those aren't the exact words because I'm not quoting here, but I think I'm close.
I'm not one to preach biblical scripture, but there's a passage somewhere in the bible that says something to the effect that "if someone punches you in the face, turn the other cheek and let them smack you again", but then goes on to suggest that you forgive that person for trespassing (assaulting you), but don't ever put yourself in a position again to let them try that trick again.
I don't think those aren't the exact words because I'm not quoting here, but I think I'm close.
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
@FreestyleArt that makes both of us 😅😅😅
FreestyleArt · 36-40, M
@riseofthemachine well I've been single in a long time. Beneficial but always alone, which is a struggle. There's probably no one for Me anyways these days. Nothing but fantasy smoke.
DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M
@Emily18 He is not referring to trust. He is referring to the "relationship".
Trust is learned (earned). Relationships can be forced.
Marriage of convenience doesn't necessarily have trust either. Same with "common law marriage".
Siblings are siblings for life. They don't necessarily have trust. They are "related" no matter what.
A human is not another animal. The "relationship" just not the same.
Relate --> Relation --> Relationship ≠ Trust.
Trust is learned (earned). Relationships can be forced.
Marriage of convenience doesn't necessarily have trust either. Same with "common law marriage".
Siblings are siblings for life. They don't necessarily have trust. They are "related" no matter what.
A human is not another animal. The "relationship" just not the same.
Relate --> Relation --> Relationship ≠ Trust.
itsok · 31-35, F
@Tenletters so important that correcting grammar is beneath me
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Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M
Only with much effort on both parts.
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caccoon · 36-40
No
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