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DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F
If he can contribute to something thats better than nothing. If he works like minimum wage part time he should still help somewhere but I can see it causing issues definitely
TBone · M
That would be a big mistake. You’d be letting him take advantage of you and you’d soon regret it.
SW-User
No, send him to his moms house.
GohantheThird · M
No, and I wouldn't expect anyone to do it for me either. I'm crashing with my folks while I look for a new apartment, but I still pay $X00 to live there in the meantime.
I get you wanna do right by him, but don't let him take advantage of you either.
I get you wanna do right by him, but don't let him take advantage of you either.
Lukeman · M
No. Protect yourself. Your feelings for someone will likely change when you see them every day in your own residence. Ask a divorce attorney if this is a good idea and expect a long response and a firm no. My current roommate paid his rent soon after he walked inside. My favorite part of every month is when I see his warm smile as he hands me four hundred fifty dollars and I count it in front of him. As a general rule, if you let people walk all over you, they will. Any roommate should pass a background check and my apartment manager declined one of mine and he moved out. As you might imagine, he is the one who calls me whenever he needs anything.
th3r0n · 41-45, M
If he loves you he will work to find a way to pay rent
If he doesn't, there's no good to be found anyway
If he doesn't, there's no good to be found anyway
BigImo · 22-25, F
He can live in a tent outside until he starts paying me rent
gdon39 · 46-50, M
Don’t do it. Love today, Animosity tomorrow.
Carissimi · F
Depends. How long is your relationship? Does he always treat you well, and with respect? Why can’t he pay you rent? Did he lose his job and his home, and is down on his luck, but trying to get back on his feet?
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@Carissimi he lives in a whole different continent so unfortunately if he ever did leave he'll need help from an outside source. I wanted him to visit for Christmas but unfortunately I'll need like 5K just to do so. We knew each other for four years.. we've never face timed and only see pictures of each other.
Carissimi · F
It sounds like he hasn’t asked to live with you, and this is your idea, correct? That’s a huge gamble with someone you only know online, and never met in person. Are you sure he’s not a scammer? How did you meet? Is it a romantic relationship?@Woofwoof15
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@Carissimi I'll message you
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Hell no. Here's the thing. When I was your age I would have and did allow a bum to stay with me for nearly a year.
Learn from others who have already been there Hell No!
Your relationship will be drained, your finances will be drained and you will build resentment. Don't ever start something ( paying all the bills) that you don't intend to finish.
Let each adult healthily stand on their own 2 feet.
Learn from others who have already been there Hell No!
Your relationship will be drained, your finances will be drained and you will build resentment. Don't ever start something ( paying all the bills) that you don't intend to finish.
Let each adult healthily stand on their own 2 feet.
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@REMsleep yeah I have seen the stories of women who did this and it failed miserably but I don't know.... I want to know if it's worth pursuing this or should I just stay in my country with someone who I can actually meet and not have drop thousands to see
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@Woofwoof15 The person that you love should be working just as hard for you as you are for them. If not it won't work long term.
Its easier in the beginning because its new and fun and exciting to be together but then reality sets in.
Often people don't change much. Only you know what his level of effort truly is.
Doesn't sound good at all to me.
Its easier in the beginning because its new and fun and exciting to be together but then reality sets in.
Often people don't change much. Only you know what his level of effort truly is.
Doesn't sound good at all to me.
Woofwoof15 · 26-30, F
@REMsleep unfortunately I don't....
But your response has shown me how little we know about each other...
But your response has shown me how little we know about each other...
Northwest · M
Generally speaking, one week will turn into 5 years, before you know it.
There are, however, unforeseen circumstances, and acts of god, but that should not be the rule.
There are, however, unforeseen circumstances, and acts of god, but that should not be the rule.
JustJustine · F
It doesn't sound like a good idea to me. If he can't support himself then I'd be very wary. I think you would end up resenting him after he uses your hospitality and finances up. Just beware
thedesi123 · 51-55, C
Maybe if the guy is a nice person and if he could help out in some house maintenance instead of cash rent. but this should not go for longer than the comfortable time period.
Isthisit · F
In the past i probably wouldve done this. But i wouldnt put up with that now.
DreamyCrush · F
No one is living with me rent free.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
Why can't he help with the rent?
NinjaStar · 100+
only if I need a butler
11knaves11 · 41-45, M