How much direct or indirect influence your friends and family have on your choice of a partner?

Absolutely zero influence, they have all voiced opinions and thoughts but they all also know that what they think or feel isn’t going to affect what I think and feel. And they accept what I feel and where my heart is.

If someone is dating a person who they don’t want to be seen in public with or let what other people think influence them, they are shit and not worth wasting time with.

There is always going to be some level of influence because at the core we are all afraid of being judged and cast out.
But there can also that sweet spot point where he will matter more than that.

With my late wife I would say none. Our families had been very friendly for more than a decade, and while I suspect my parents were relieved when I ended another relationship and eloped with her, they never said anything or exerted any pressure.

With my second partner, I consulted my adult children: not on whom, but the fact she was moving in without the imprimatur of marriage and whether that would impact the grandkids, the addendum to the trust set up for them to assure her of some security, and the fact it was barely a year after the death of their mother. They were very supportive, and choice of partner was never an issue.

People say they don't want to be seen with their partners?

0,i keep it completely private and away from family and friends

None

If someone is worried or concerned about a person I am dating... I will listen to what bothers the person and take a better look at who I am dating. If someone judges by looks, etc... I may see the one judging in a different way.
If you haven't matured enough emotionally and mentally to be with someone who touches your heart... without letting others sway you about shallow things, then the one you're dating deserves better.