Curious about this. If you’re married and happen to be widowed fairly young what happens with in laws? Especially if or when you start dating again?

In laws can be like a second chance at family and may be a source of comfort if your spouse passes. But if you start to move on, especially romantically, do you still keep contact with old in laws? Bring your new partner along? Has anyone ever been in this situation?

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GrinNude · 61-69, C

If your in-laws are loving and have truly bonded with you, they will want you to be happy and to stay in their lives.

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SomeMichGuy · M

@GrinNude I means that the person using it is seconding your response, indicating agreement. You had a great, clear, concise response.

I was delighted to see it and concurred.

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GrinNude · 61-69, C

@SomeMichGuy I appreciate you getting back to me with such a kind and supportive comment. You have delighted me with your fingers. Lol. Birdie.

SomeMichGuy · M

@GrinNude

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BackyardShaman · 61-69, M

I’ve been in this situation as a widower, so there could be variables that differ for a woman. For me, well the actual parents were already dead, and my wife had no children, but a brother, nephews, first cousins. I was the sole heir to my estate, however a group of nephews, nieces and unbelievably great nieces, under the guidance of my wife’s psychotic EX sister in law, did everything they could to try and take things from me by challenging the will. My lawyer handled it quickly, but of course I have nothing to do with these greedy people. Her brother, first cousins and one nephew that wasn’t in on that bad behavior I occasionally touch base with.

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I think it all depends on how well you get along as people. I had a friend who had a boyfriend for about three years and it seemed like she made a stronger bond with his parents than him. His mom as if adopted her because she wanted a daughter and really liked her as a person.

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

That's a tragedy. In here if you widow but still live with in laws they would care but not like usual. They aren't actually nice towards you. Food, clothing and customs all changes. In case of a male they are left out alone.

nedkelly · 61-69, M

That would depend a great deal if you have children, if you start all over again there is no reason you cannot be still friends with them

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

@nedkelly yes bc children would be their grandkids so that would be a permanent connection, I agree. If you have no kids then I suppose it’s optional but I bet it changes the dynamic. I think my in laws would still include me on things (we have no kids). But idk if I’d feel very comfortable bringing someone else unless it had been a very long time. Both my parents have passed so he wouldn’t have anyone on my side anyway. I do have a friend who’s hubby passed of cancer in his 40s but she has a little boy so of course she really needs her in-laws.

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