Not possible to have relationships as an aromantic ? Or are they just 'different' ? Is it 'odd' to want sex but not romance ?

Curious if anyone else here is aromantic and is able to have relationships? I'm starting to feel my two long term ones failed partly because I can't do or feel romantic attraction and because of that I don't express 'love' in the way most women expect or want.

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/what-is-aromantic-and-what-does-it-mean-for-relationships/

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Gray90 · 31-35, F

Hi, I am arospec and had one relationship - that lasted eight years. It took him a year to get that I wasn't "in love" and didn't like some romance-coded actions. After that, he was okay with it and tried his best to not make me feel uncomfortable. All the sad things that led to the break-up didn't have anything to do with me being aro.
I know a couple of people who have never been in love, and some who I assume have never been in love. A few of them are in relationships. To be honest, I I am not sure whether "most women" want one particular expression of love. I am not sure what exactly it is aou mean by that... If, e.g., kissing is concerned: A while ago I saw a thread in a Facebook group that asked whether people liked kissing and lots of people commenting actually didn't like it or were neutral.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

I presume kissing is seen as a romantic thing. Been a lot of years since I tried any of that.

I love hugs, but I'm very frightened to go beyond that. I feel scared to touch and explore intimately.

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