Sounds like jeslousy, but the foot of the jealousy all the other things you described about anxiousness and feeling insecure etc.
Not going to BS you.. this thing you noticed about yourself is important to work on in order to have healthy relationships with people. It’s important that everyone have connections and a broader support system than just their boyfriend/girlfriend etc. even when you’re married it’s important to have a bigger support system than just your spouse.
@WhateverWorks that’s for sure! So now that I noticed this about me what can I do about it? Someone has told me try therapy before but I find it hard to open up to a therapist. It’s something I need to work on but I don’t know where to begin. It bothers me when I get that feeling because it makes me anxious and then I feel alone.
Some of what you’ve described sounds like it would be good for you to go to a counselor who specializes in something called attachment theory specifically
Mainly though it’s just important to develop your own support system, goals, things going on for yourself so that way you’re not hyper focused on your partner and whenever they have something else going on it activates your anxiety because then suddenly you become aware of all the things you don’t have going on for yourself. @Fifidog
@WhateverWorks that’s a good point I should focus on myself more. It would probably be a good idea to see a counselor for attachment. Thank you for your help. I really appreciate you taking the time to give me your advice. I have goals and lots of things going for me but I often get upset because the only other close reliable people I have in my life is my parents. No close friends who I can just pop over their house to say a quick hello, which bothers me.
