I think when you have feelings they can grow into love if you "choose" to love them as its a choice to love someone.
Being"in love" is a short-lived and can turn into love if you choose to love them because you do have feeling for them and your attracted and connected mind body and soul.
I think being "in love" with someone is NOT a choice its that instant attraction you get when you are first getting to know them and feel connected,have feelings for,attracted and the turns into love if you let it.
If I like anything about someone, I like them. If I like everything about someone, I love them. If I like everything about someone and we have great sex, I'm in love.
Like is liking someone, but conditionally. Love is liking someone unconditionally. In-love is just glorification of a temporary infatuation. Eventually it becomes love.