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Do You Think/Believe That Someone Can Have Feelings For Someone Without Being In love With Them?

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Yes
No
It makes no sense to me
Anything is possible
Yes, I know because I've felt this way about someone before.
It's strange, but I'm sure this is going on somewhere in the world
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I just have a random question that just popped up in my head. This is not pertaining to anything going on with me, it's just a question. Do you think that it's possible to have romantic feelings towards someone, but not be in love with them?
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I think once you cross that line of being in love with someone, there will always be a little part of them still attached to your heart. I see it like this...when you fall in love with someone, you give them a piece of your heart and vice versa and that piece of their heart becomes yours to keep forever. The attachment and love in general can fade when the relationship comes to an end, but with some you really connect with you'll always have that piece of their heart attached to yours.
I think when you have feelings they can grow into love if you "choose" to love them as its a choice to love someone.
Being"in love" is a short-lived and can turn into love if you choose to love them because you do have feeling for them and your attracted and connected mind body and soul.
I think being "in love" with someone is NOT a choice its that instant attraction you get when you are first getting to know them and feel connected,have feelings for,attracted and the turns into love if you let it.
If I like anything about someone, I like them. If I like everything about someone, I love them. If I like everything about someone and we have great sex, I'm in love.
Like is liking someone, but conditionally. Love is liking someone unconditionally. In-love is just glorification of a temporary infatuation. Eventually it becomes love.
UserNameSW · 46-50, M
Many people have feelings sometimes romantic it isn't always love. Most of he time it isn't.
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
I'm not just talking romantic feelings in a sexual sense. I can't explain it, but I feel like it's different and can in fact happen. I've felt like this before for someone. Like this one ex I had. I dated him online. I have been in love with him before, but I'm not anymore, but I still had romantic feelings for him. I was in and still is very much so in love with another guy, but some old feelings came back up for this other guy when he got back in touch with me.
FORMERLYbatovn · 61-69, M
to me the "feelings" are that of friendship and acceptance as a person. That is not love by any means. friendship can be close and you can grow to PLATONICALLY love friends.....but thats where i draw the line
GlassDog · 46-50, M
@butterfly Yes, I think so. Feeling romantic and being in love are different.
DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
For sure. Different people, different roles in life, different feelings.
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
No... not necessarily. It sounds like it's the same, but to me it's not.
GlassDog · 46-50, M
@FeetAreFantastic It's an interesting one, and something that we'll all feel differently on. I don't know where the line is, but I do know there are people I'd say I've been in love with, and those who I have had romantic feelings for, and I know it's different. I just don't know if I can explain why!
SW-User
Yeah, there's plenty of people who can have romantic feelings for others but not necessarily be in love with them. Like when you're just starting to enter a relationship with someone...you can have romantic feelings towards them but not be in love with them just yet.
The risk of romantic love being our definition of real love (common for people who see real love as a “feeling” rather than a “choice”), is that it cannot be sustained for anyone. If we saw it this way, then we may always be chasing it, never staying with someone long enough to move into “committed love”, and never really being satisfied in a relationship. Plus all of that intensity gets exhausting after awhile! Those fantasies are also quite a burden for the other person to carry, and how disappointed we can be when they don’t live up to those earlier visions! “You’re not the person I fell in love with”. And why does this happen with a specific person? That’s also for another post.
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
I was trying to put romantic feelings, but it wouldn't fit in the poll question. Those are the type of feelings I am talking about. Not just general feelings about someone.
Sure it's possible to have feelings like friends. You want good things for them but obviously don't treat them the way you would a significant other
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
I am asking if you think it's possible to have romantic feelings towards someone, but not being in love with them
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
I have feelings for a lot of people, I genuinely get concerned..... but i don't necessary love them
GlassDog · 46-50, M
I think so, yeah. Feelings are quite a big spectrum and there are many places to exist on it.
Selah ·
I feel like this towards many. Its just part of being a person
SW-User
Yes I think so. I've been with people that I loved as a friend, but there was no connection. Maybe it is the difference between attraction and what develops afterwards. Sometimes something more blooms while in other situations things just sort of fade and you lose interest in pursuing anything more.
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
That makes perfect sense.
butterfly1013 · 26-30, F
Good answer, but What I'm asking is if you feel it's possible to have true, deep feelings for someone , but not be in love with them at the same time.
SW-User
Romantic feelings but do not love them? Yup. As proved by my ex. Next question.
FORMERLYbatovn · 61-69, M
to be totally truthful, that is the definition of lust
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FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
Yes. In many ways. You feel emotional attached to some people without being in love. And hatred for someone is also a feeling. ;)
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
What's the difference then? In love is more? A stronger version? And where do you draw the line then? I think this question is basically unanswerable because of our limiting vocabulary to express something as complex as feelings. Not every persons definition will be the same and not everybody's way of feeling romantically in love will be the same. But does it really matter?
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
Isn't that kind of the same: romantic feelings and in love?

 
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