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@bijouxbroussard have you been in this situation before?
@Ghostinthemachine Yes, although more with friends I admired. I tend to attract extroverts and I can fake gregariousness—just not for long.
@bijouxbroussard I get that. I can be an extrovert at times, and shy during others. Makes me wonder which is the true “me”
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
No. Oddly, I know we would be. I sometimes hide because I feel it’s not wanted
@NewBeginnings7790 I think it’s a rare thing. I look for evidence of it in other couples, I don’t see it often
NewBeginnings7790 · 41-45, F
@Ghostinthemachine It is a very rare thing. Most people go their entire lives never knowing or understanding what a true connection is.
@NewBeginnings7790 sad but true.
And then they wonder why they never did, choosing to find reasons and excuses, rather than being honest with themselves
@SooperSarah strange how others can see us quite differently than we do, and how our perception of ourselves isn’t what we are projecting to the world
@Ghostinthemachine Third eye. Next you pray, seek for it and don't be greedy. Keep ALL the worldmen in those prayers.
@sspec I’m not a praying man, but if it give you the strength and courage you need, by all means
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@SW-User the only one who can define you, is you
I don’t normally wonder about that. I always show my real self because I’d rather know early on if the other person would still like me with all my nice and not-so-nice side. It’s all a matter of preference and level of acceptance.

I do wonder what you wrote about in others, specially when I could tell they were hiding something, or holding back from being who they are.
@CookieCrumbs at some point, revealing the “new and improved” you may be too much for your partner, and it’s something they can’t unsee, so where do you go from there? Most I think, don’t want to entertain that scenario, and choose to remain who they are supposed to be
@Ghostinthemachine
Would you choose the latter?
@CookieCrumbs I feel like I have, but also I feel I have been incrementally over time, been made to choose this path
@V00doo as you should be
JestAJester · 31-35, M
It's a matter of "what will they do with the information I give them?" Most don't stick around long enough where there is any point to opening up. Others, when you reveal yourself to them makes you appear weak or possibly deranged in their eyes.

You wanna know more about me? Don't jump off the ride halfway through
@JestAJester I suppose we get snippets of information about people the more time we spend with them. Like a good novel, we have to stay engaged in order to want to turn the next page, if not we put the book back in the shelf and find another. But there is always someone else that may be willing to read to the end
JestAJester · 31-35, M
@Ghostinthemachine A human being is a unique set of pages for sure. It is not one book, but a collection of sorts. A series of short stories of varying lengths and genres. But you do not always get to choose which novel to read. Sometimes you may have to put one down and read another to understand the first novel. Some novels are better left unread until the end
@JestAJester I think, for the most part, we always get to choose. The decisions may be difficult, but the final choice rests with you
We Pisceans are supposedly "mutable" signs meaning we easily blend in with most any other types. At least that's what I've read.
@Grateful4you do you find that you are?
bookerdana · M
@Grateful4you We're creative and convivial 🤣 as well as understanding..you make us sound like spineless jellyfish🤨
Iwillwait · M
Sadly, this may be the case for me with everyone.
Iwillwait · M
@Ghostinthemachine Of course I do, I can reveal the "Real me," and watch them leave.
@Iwillwait you just have to find the right person who will appreciate the real you. People leaving, though it might hurt initially, are doing you a favour in the long run
Iwillwait · M
itsok · 31-35, F
Sometimes I wish people would hate me. I feel like I deserve it. But more than that, i feel like I have to shield myself because I don’t want to hurt people. Who I really am is someone who can cause a lot of pain, not on purpose. How are you supposed to love someone and know you’re hurting them at the same time?
@itsok why do you hurt the ones you love, if you know you’re doing this?
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@nightjourney you don’t want a guy that emphasizes the physical over the mental/emotional anyways
SW-User
I think the reason I don't completely open up to someone is more along the lines of not knowing myself as well as I could, and also at some level I don't want to be seen by anyone because maybe that will be grounds for rejection.
@SW-User rejection is tough, and yes, it’s important to know yourself. And like who you are. That will form the basis for who will be good for you, thus reducing the chance of rejection. And even then, rejection can be seen as a favour, because the other person is obviously too blind to see what is good for them
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@Ghostinthemachine Yeah, but it's a process and sometimes our defense mechanisms love to trick us. 🙃
@SW-User that’s why it’s important to know thyself, so as not to trick yourself out of an opportunity 🙂
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I always test the waters first. Listen and observe before speaking and only reveal what is unlikely to cause unnecessary troubles to me. It's exhausting but I hate drama with people way too much.
@CrazyMusicLover at some point, do you trust enough to reveal more about yourself?
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@Ghostinthemachine Of course, when I find out they have no problem with certain things, I do.
@CrazyMusicLover it’s the only way to get close to someone
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
No. It's because I refuse to be hurt again. I nearly didn't make it through this time. I won't take the chance of being hurt that badly ever again.
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@Ghostinthemachine I was blindsided. He lied to me right up until the very last minute. And he was a tremendous liar. I have spoken recently to one person. Both if us suspect counseling might be necessary to find any peace and healing.
@LadyBronte I think you should give it a try, you have nothing to lose, as someone has already taken so much from you.
You have to start finding ways of taking your life back
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@Ghostinthemachine I think the first step is caring if you have life back or not.
SW-User
Yes especially with a cruel person or narcissist.
@SW-User that type of person isn’t worth allowing yourself to reveal the real you
Elanor · F
“We’re all broken, that’s how the light gets in” 🧛🏻‍♀️
@Elanor I like this ☺️
Hemingway ❤️
No.
The reason is different. Congenial surroundings is the essential for any communication in the absence of which nothing makes sense.
I don't like too much peopling coz I am Not into justifying coz it is a big turn off for me. It buries my true intent of doing what I do.
😴
@sspec all of that mental exercise has finally paid off
@Ghostinthemachine Hope all is well with all the SW users including you.
@sspec I hope all is well with them..and me, as well 🙏
purplegold39 · 36-40, F
Or they might use my flaws as a weapon against me.
@purplegold39 then they are the wrong person to be with. What kind of person uses a persons flaws against someone they supposedly care about?
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I would rather prefer to do that so as not to waste time.

Show me the real you and I will do the same. If you don’t want me at your worst you don’t deserve me at my best.

I am and open, understanding, caring, empathetic, intelligent and a loving person. If someone is hiding their true selves from me then just say it.

You should do that and let this person off the hook if you don’t actually think you are compatible.

Just my 2 cents, take it or leave it 🤷🏼‍♀️
@iamonfire696 I agree, but what do you do when this incompatibility develops over time, that you evolve and change separately, but perhaps you’re the only one who realizes this?
JustNik · 51-55, F
I’ve gotten to where I can’t seem to ignore the transience of people so I don’t share what I don’t want floating around out there in hands that don’t care about me. I will listen, support, be reliable and trustworthy, but I suppose on top of all my lack of entertainment value, my limits might also contribute to that transience. Compatibility is an odd thing for me. What are the requirements? I can get along with and even enjoy or adore a wide array of people I have nothing in common with. I’ve never actually authentically clicked or relaxed with anyone other than my daughters. I’m either compatible with most or none. 🤷‍♀️
@JustNik People are busy. Wrapped up in their own lives. It takes a special person to want to share theirs with you, and want to learn about yours in return. That takes time and effort, but for the right person, so very worth it.
FoolishLuna · 56-60, F
I think it takes life experiences to know yourself. Once I opened up to myself and truly loved me I found the most amazing man who knows me. All of me , the good , the bad and the ugly and he is my love, life and soulmate.
I think it’s worth the hurt to be who you are. If someone doesn’t like/love you for who you are it’s not someone I would want in my life.
@FoolishLuna Yes, this!
It’s true, you have to love yourself before you can be loved by someone.
Once I became comfortable in my own skin, I didn’t take rejection so hard, I figured they were doing us both a favour :)
NeuroticByNature · 41-45, F
Incompatible or worse unliked. My ego couldnt handle that.
@NeuroticByNature I’m assuming you mean unliked by someone you love and respect

 
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