when they manipulate they usually start pushing or promoting something for you to get involved in that will eventually benefit them in some way. When you don’t take the bait they will gaslight you. This is just one example. My sister tried to convince me to take her to the local casino to play Texas Hold Em Poker with her. She wanted me to be her partner and sit and play with her. She had never played it before but was sure she could be good at it by reading books. She order 3 or 4 books to learn how. I told her from the beginning that I don’t drive to the casino myself, I will go when others want me to go with them and they drive there. And that I wouldn’t be taking her. She claimed her son told her that she would be good at Poker and that he wins a lot of money playing it. I told her if he suggested it then she needed to ask him to take her the next time he went. I also knew that if she lost her money she would lay a hard-luck story on me and probably have a meltdown in the casino to get me to shell out $$$ to her to cover what she lost. She refused to ask her son and I knew she lied about him making the suggestion. After a month of her talking about how much money she could make on this idea she decided to gaslight me I came over to take her to garage sales and she pulls out a clipboard with a notebook in it and tells me she doesn’t know if I know it but “You are weird”. I knew what she was doing. So I smiled and replied “I know I am weird, but don’t have a problem with that. She gritted her teeth because she didn’t offend or hurt my feelings like she thought she would. Then she takes out the notebook and goes down a checklist of things she thought was wrong with me. And proceeds to tell me what medications I should be on and the side effects 😂 Like she was a psychiatrist. I decided then I was not going to put up with her crap much longer. Went ahead and took her to garage sales but after that I refused to answer texts from her.
