I Am A Babysitter Who Spanks

She was given the liberty to do so. But if she thinks they don’t need spanking then, she doesn’t have to. It’s within her judgement anyways.

I think becoming the spanker is another step towards maturity. And it will help her understand why she needs it too.

It is their house and their rules. So it is down to your daughter if she wishes to babysit under these terms, she has a choice as do you, in whether or not you allow her to babysit. If everyone knows the ground rules from the start and nobody disagrees then that is that.

My daughter is the same age. She babysits a lot. And she does spank at time's

I sat for a family who lived across the street from me. They had two children - girl (7) and a boy (5) at the time and they were strict parents who spanked. They always told me that I could spank them if they misbehaved, but I never did. One time however, when I was sitting, the girl refused to go to bed. I walked her back to her room over and over and told her I was going to tell her parents. She didn't listen and stayed up until she heard her parents.

She quickly ran to her room into bed - the sneak. Anyway I told her parents what happened and the mom immediately went into her daughter's room, scolded her, and pulled her into the living room.

She then took her daughter over her lap, pulled down her pj's and panties and spanked her really hard and fast until she was crying and her bottom was red. She then looked at me and told me the next time she refuses to do what I tell her, I am to spank her just like she just did.

She then scolded me for not being harder with her daughter and told me that she should spank me for allowing her daughter to stay up. I know I felt red in the face when she scolded me. I tried explain that I tried to get her daughter to go to bed, but her daughter would not listen.

And no, I was not spanked.

I think, spanking should not be a pro spanking or anti spanking decision ..
.. that implies either spanking is wrong for all ,or it is right for all parents ..
.. and neither of it is true ..🤔

.. children are individuals and their descipline should be as unique as they are ..
.. maybe, some kids would scared permanently by spanking..and others need it ..
.. but this is true for every form of descipline there is ..
.. the art/skill of parenting is finding what is right for your child and you at any given point in time ..

A friend at work is looking for a sitter for her 8 year old daughter for a couple of hours after school
I did think of my daughter Sammy doing it as she’s just turned 14 but not sure if it’s a good idea as she can still be very much the little girl who needs watching herself and is addicted to her mobile

Sunniva has now had her first sitter job were she was expected to spank for misbehavior. She now has a agreement with the family to sit for them twice a week on a regular basis. I'm so proud of her

She maybe little too young give a spanking, but you could learn her how to do it, if he sometimes in future have to give a spanking

I'd say show her how to do it and let her go to it.

I think it should strictly be a parent thing if it is a thing at all

I think she is a bit to young for that. If she was two or better three years older I would allow it.

The problem is that often the sitter isn’t strict enough. I needed to look for a while until I found someone who is able to take it serious and not just think of it as a way to earn some easy money while watching movies.

My advice is stop abusing your child.

Let the parents do it

I think that's a very slippery slope and if it were me, I'd say no.

At 13 she is not the legal age to babysit children at least here in the uk. If there was an accident or something the parents would be in trouble with social services or even the police

I’ve spanked my nephew with his moms prior approval but a babysitter I wouldn’t think that is a good idea.

If you trust her judgment, then she should be able to spank when necessary. Since I was able to feed, diaper & dress infants when I was 10, I see no reason that she can't give a spanking if you trust her judgment to know when it's necessary. I watched my sibs over a 10 years period & only spanked each 1 twice. (Apparently they each needed 1 to know that I COULD spank (even without permission) & 1 to know that I WOULD spank.
The important thing is that she not ask of them anything they are not of an age to handle. And it would help teach responsibility.
If they're in the 7-10 range it should be a breeze for her as they can understand that they aren't supposed to do some things & once she proves that she can & will spank if they disobey commands the same way they have to obey mom, it should be easy.
You might want to make sure she knows how to spank so there is no misunderstanding & just check up that she knows the rules of the kids she's babysitting as they may be different from yours.

I say NO because it could open a floodgate of trouble in that they might then accuse your daughter of anythng. Stay well clear.

I have to disagree with some of the comments here. Where I live, children 12 yrs and up, are legally allowed to babysit. 12 I admit, seems a little young, but by the time a girl or boy is in their teens, and so long as they exhibit the maturity to handle watching younger children, I see nothing wrong with it. As for spanking? I agree with others who suggest that any kind of physical discipline should be carried out by a parent , and not a temporary care giver, be it a 13 year old girl, or a 38 year old nanny. Just my humble opinion.

Sitters should not spank; it is not their role. Then again, neither should parents.

I think if the parents want your daughter to spank their kids as needed then you should allow it, but I would tell her that if she abuses the privilege by spanking unfairly or excessively then her own bottom will pay a heavy price.

It should just be the parents. One person's spank is another person's beating. Opening a teenager up to that level of responsibility could be harmful to them.

I think she may be a little young, but if she is a sensible, responsible girl, then maybe not.

may be teach her how to do it the right way

i would definitely let her spank - is she comfortable doing it?

I would not let her spank someone else’s kids. Just don’t think it’s right. That’s my two cents.

Has it changed how she behaves towards you and accepts her spankings?

I think handled well it could be a good thing, your daughter could learn it's not good to abuse power when you have it

If this is what the parents are asking for it is part of what they are paying for. My babysitters were teenagers and a few were as young as 13. Sometimes it was difficult for me to accept sitters that young as authority figures. The ones I respected didn't treat me like a friend or a peer...they were my superior. Spanking me, more than anything else, would show who's in charge.

Its a difficult call. I think possibly if it was more symbolic than painful, it might be ok. I think the embarrassment of having their pants pulled down and put over a knee might be as effective as inflicting pain. And you're daughter would not have to wrestle with that at her age. Definitely no implements.

I would a pod having her spank someone else’s child. There are ways that she can discipline without the liability of spanking another’s child.

I would hope she would use her judgement on when to spank if at all. Being spanked herself, I would think she would know only to use it in severe situations. If she is comfortable with doing it responsibly and the parents asked for it, then it's really up to your daughter if she feels ok with doing it.

Yes, she should, lest the kids decide she is a pushover

If they are still having to do it, it's clearly working!

The parents are fools if they allow a 13 year old to babysit. No child of that age should be given that responsibility no matter how mature they seem. There are been some sad accidents happen as a result.

StrictMarie, has your daughter spanked any of the children she babysits yet?

I think that only parents should spank.