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Is sex shamed by the ego?

I’m bored with normal, or good, or whatever crap label humanity put on oppression. I’ve had an adventurous life in a multitude of ways. I don’t want to hide who I am anymore. All that I am. Sex is a huge facet. So primal, yet with our beautiful human capabilities, it can be advanced magic 😆 I’ve always had a really high sex drive, but felt ashamed of it. Shame is just over for me now and I see beauty in all things. I’m ready to open up and let the wild woman out 🖤 When you feel free to be yourself, of course you’re less interested in sex as an ego boost, it can become just as much a passion as art or writing or music. And just as expressive and shareable.

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caccoon · 36-40 Best Comment

I'm similar... Sex is a very important thing to me and it rejuvenates me in a way nothing else can. We all need it and shouldn't be ashamed of it. (Or maybe it's ignorant for me to say ALL of us need it, but anyway...).

We're happier creatures for having more sex. It's such a special connection

Plus, it's hot as fuck 😩

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@caccoon yes yes YES 😆

Docdon23 · M

I am totally the same!! Felt shame and guilt most of my life, but liberated the last few years, finally!! I believe it is society and religion that have given us the shame...for some perhaps useful reasons long ago, but no more--so we would go out and work and provide instead of having sex for hours...shame and guilt were also created as a power play--certain institutions wanted power over us, to be faithful believers and followers...we are now past that. Sex can be so amazing, so blissful, so romantic, and even spiritual, if allowed to open up and be experienced in new and fantastic ways!! Enjoy yourself now!!

SW-User

Yeah, but where does it really get you?

It's strange because as a rebellious teen I never once thought I'd be "that" practical person, but that really is who I have become in a lot of ways. When I'm thinking about promiscuity, I'm questioning who you will have to grow old with and who will be there for you when you truly need them to be. Another aspect to this is that I've decided I'm worth it, and that you (guys) don't get to have me if you've got nothing to give me or aren't worthwhile. You will surely go on to your next conquest and next fuck, but this shows me why I was right to be reluctant and why I was right to deem you as not good enough for me.

There is much to be said for monogamy and family life...it brings good to you, not bad. I want to be fucked all the time but I want it to be by someone who really cares about me and yes, loves me.

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@SW-User of course you get to be you. For me, I’ve lived an interesting life and the thought of monogamy bores me in a sense that I’m bound to one person and can never explore outside of their world, I have to limit my curiosity and passion to constantly balance with someone. But I’d rather them be free as well. That’s not so much rebellious as it is wise hun. I’ve been married. My family is dead. When I was 22 I thought I could make life beautiful. But you have no control. Life happens. Everything changes. I didn’t think I was telling anyone how to live their life, not my style 😆

But you ask, where does it get me?

Since we’re all gonna end up dead, alone or partnered, it makes me feel alive. It puts life in my years 🖤

SW-User

@RebelFox 22 is my age :)

I suppose it all comes down to perspective and our own subjective experiences. I've found that monogamy and devoting myself to one person has been enriching for me, and there's always new things to explore with him. I feel I can have a deep and meaningful relationship with him instead of having what I consider to be superficial and passing experiences with lots of other people. I lost my parents two years ago, and it's partly because of this that I like to have a strong bond with someone. As a kid I moved places and houses a lot too. I had some other unfortunate experiences that I won't share, but...stability is something I truly crave. And when you have childeen, it's really essential.

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

Be who you are. Fuck who you like. Do what makes you feel good.

cercisflowertoo · 51-55, F

Let the wild woman out !

beaglehunter · 70-79, M

@cercisflowertoo yes! i am all into that😛

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

Sex is the most natural thing in the world; why on earth would it be something to be ashamed of?

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@JimboSaturn childhood experiences can taint the whole picture, there’s lots of reasons I’m sure. I always felt shame

JimboSaturn · 51-55, M

@RebelFox I know, I guess my point was we should have never been shamed in the first place. Sex is amazing and normal.

CookieCrumbs · F

There shouldn’t be any shame in sexual expression of who we truly are.

Some may choose to do it with committed partners, while others choose to share it with anyone they want to share it with.

Either choice should be a personal decision that should be based on authentic self expression and not just with intent of using the other person.

Be who you are. There will always be people who will embrace you for who you are. :)

Cantsayno · 56-60, M

I absolutely love this post. As long as everyone is consensual. Let’s let our freak flags wave !!!!!
Good for you for being brave enough to be your true self.
I hope we all can learn from you !!!!

JackJames · M

It’s people who think they’re better than others who have a repressed sexual life style. That’s who shaming others. We all know sex is natural.

Morninglory69 · 36-40, M

The way I see it. Everyone should be free to try and express who they are. I’m into certain erotic kinks that only 7% of the world are into but I shouldn’t feel ashamed by it. The over 93% shouldn’t shame me either as I guarantee they have their own personal kinks that others may or may not share. Life is for living you should enjoy life as much as you can because death is certain but next week, month, year is not. We get so worried about how others think about ourselves we never truly do what makes us happy

biandlargeny · 56-60, M

I completely agree. Sexuality should not be hidden or discussed. It should be celebrated.

I went through 10 years exploring and hiding my own bisexuality.

Not hiding anymore.

I like what I like. If someone doesn't approve they have to deal with it. Not me.

Finally happy. Good luck to you!

Teslin · M

Everyone should be able to be themselves without shame or judgment. But, as we all know, that is impossible in today's society.
Be yourself without shame, despite judgment from others.

Northwest · M

Art? Writing? Music?

These can be pursued as professional careers, but can also be part of what feeds one's passion for life and soul, as in I'm a scientist, but I feed my soul through art, music, reading and writing.

Sex/sensuality/erotica is another way I feed my soul, but how does one turn sex into a career, just as artists, writers and musicians do?

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Northwest · M

@RebelFox Is porn done out of passion or need to make a living?

My impression of artists is that while they make a living doing what they love, it is primarily about what they love. Same with writers and musicians.

Is it the same passion/love of what they for the porn industry?

RebelFox · 36-40, F

@Northwest I don’t monetize off any of my passions, but I’d say porn would be the easiest.

Northwest · M

@RebelFox Is passion part of porn, if it's a job? As in every day, every time? Or is it simply a job. I've read porn actors/actresses accounts of their job, and for the most part, they don't associate passion with their job.

I have taken a couple of seminars, led by sex educators (one a male/female couple, professors at the U. of AZ Medical School), who, for the entire week, did the same exercises they were asking everyone to do, so I guess sex education / sex therapy is one way to live your sexual passion, just as an artist would.

beaglehunter · 70-79, M

sex is fun.fun is good have fun and get as much as you can.sooner or later the fun stops and you have to enjoy it by your self.p.s. you wont go blind thats B.S.