I have an awkward funeral to go to.

It’s an uncle (not close but close enough i should go for my cousins) and I can’t describe the level of drama in my side of the family right now since our own mom passed away last year. On a scale of 1-10 it’s 15 and possibly could cause a scene not gonna lie. It’s really really bad. My family will likely be there with this one helluva big “elephant” in the room.

Kind of stressed about it all. Anyone been through the same?

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drymer · 56-60, M

I don't understand... If there are such hard feelings between the, mmm, "factions", why show up in the first place...? I thought that funerals were a time to make amends, but if that's not possible, I would not show up... And, if I needed/wanted to go to the funeral to support specific people, OK, I would go, and I would just not interact with the "offending party"... I don't get why anyone would go to a funeral to pick up a fight or something... (I really don't know the details of your situation, but you don't really explain much either...)

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

@drymer Well i have nothing against the deceased or their kids who are hosting. I expect it to be a small funeral, and it’s my own family that will be there. There’s a lot of hard feelings cause lawyers are involved now and it’s turned into a legal matter with personal ramifications. No amends will be made.

Not to mention the hosting fam has no idea whats going on and they may say the wrong thing and put their foot in their mouth or worse, trigger innocently trigger the wrong nerve. They expect that we are all getting along like usual.

LucyFuhr · 56-60, F

When my father passed away we held the "wake" at a restaurant [b]out of town[/b] to avoid drama.
And the restaurant still had to get their bouncer and hostess to make sure [b][i]this[/i][/b] person didn't get in and [b][i]that[/i][/b] person didn't sit at the wrong table.

'Cause funerals aren't already stressful enough, right? LOL

I'm sorry for your loss; try not to worry about something you probably won't have any control over any way 🤗

MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M

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DoubleRings · 51-55, F

@MartinTheFirst elephant chat? i get the connection but what is that?

MartinTheFirst · 22-25, M

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ElwoodBlues · M

Without a few more specifics about the basis for the drama, it's impossible to answer. Perhaps you're saying that when your mom died during peak Covid times, very few attended her funeral, whereas now, during semi-post-Covid times you think expectations should be similar to last year?

If not that, then what, exactly, is the connection between your mom's passing and the upcoming uncle's funeral?

[b]Update:[/b] Sounds like somebody got written out of a will? Your mom? You think your uncle got what should have gone to your mom? You think lawyers can break your uncle's will?

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