[c=4C0073]If this is something you're experiencing, i offer hugs and hope for it to pass.

For me though, yes i know .. their words are a temporary relief,

at least their words allow me some form of illusion ..
some delusion .. some diversion from the pain, so i dont go into total meltdown and depression.

I do care for all who are kind to me.
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That is why I get so concerned with the blanket validation that some give. It comes across as fake. I need friends that I can be transparent with so I know that my exchanges/chats with them are real with sincere responses. I hope you break through the isolation. 🙏🏻

[quote] And you can pretend that the words people say change the way you feel, but you know.
that comfort[i] is delusion[/i].[/quote]

You speak truth. Words change notta. A person has to believe it within themselves. Otherwise it's just band-aids that have to be constantly replaced.

That's the thing though, your conviction in your flaws is a false narrative that you have come to be convinced of. You only know what you know until you are shown something different. We are all born thinking that life is a single room until we are shown another room, and then the world outside of that room. You have been poisoned by your experiences and you have come to believe a truth that isn't the truth. Even if it were indeed the truth you would have the power to change it, to be something else. You could never be all things to all people but you can be more than enough for one person that matters.

Never accept the toxic narrative that the sickness in your mind tries to convince you of. Be brave enough to say no, I am not that.

You need to stop lying to yourself and start being your own best friend instead of your worst enemy.

@itsok, here's a link with articles by people who have experienced similar problems as the one you described.

[b][i]The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Our Worth and How I’ve Let Them Go[/i][/b]
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-about-our-worth-and-how-ive-let-them-go/

If you are so inclined, explore the site and you may find some advice that will be helpful to you.

Good enough for what?

The worst thing you can do is worrying about what people care or think
Do what's right for you and do for other people what they deserve and to hell with everything else ❤️

You wanna marry a king or whats happenin?

Good thing I choose my friends

I can’t really relate. 🙁