I'm going through a heart break
This relationship was very close to me. And I'm not able to get over it.
I feel frustrated and in pain.
What should i do?
I feel frustrated and in pain.
What should i do?
22-25, F
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496sbc · 36-40, M
Yes i am honest@YourFriend4ever
@YourFriend4ever I sure wouldn't trust anyone here. Long distance relationships don't work, imho. You can't really get to know them. Rarely do they work.
On the other, you get well by telling yourself the truth. There was a reason you broke up and it needed to be done and now you're free and you can finally find someone that will treat you as you deserve. Telling myself the truth is what got me through a horrible breakup and then I could see it for what it was and then it didn't hurt that much anymore. I found that I was not mourning my loss. Instead, I was mourning what I [b]thought[/b] I had. What I had wanted, but did not find.
Start looking forward to the new person you're going to meet that will make you happy and laugh again. Dream about what he looks like and remember that he's looking for you, as well. Give yourself time to heal from this one first. You do not want to find someone while you're grieving or upset about this one. Give yourself closure on this one. Even if the other person doesn't give you closure you can give yourself closure and move on by accepting it for what it was and seeing it as a learning experience. We certainly don't want to get stuck with someone that we are not compatible with. That makes no sense at all.
On the other, you get well by telling yourself the truth. There was a reason you broke up and it needed to be done and now you're free and you can finally find someone that will treat you as you deserve. Telling myself the truth is what got me through a horrible breakup and then I could see it for what it was and then it didn't hurt that much anymore. I found that I was not mourning my loss. Instead, I was mourning what I [b]thought[/b] I had. What I had wanted, but did not find.
Start looking forward to the new person you're going to meet that will make you happy and laugh again. Dream about what he looks like and remember that he's looking for you, as well. Give yourself time to heal from this one first. You do not want to find someone while you're grieving or upset about this one. Give yourself closure on this one. Even if the other person doesn't give you closure you can give yourself closure and move on by accepting it for what it was and seeing it as a learning experience. We certainly don't want to get stuck with someone that we are not compatible with. That makes no sense at all.
@YourFriend4ever It is something we wanted and was lead to believe it was there, while all the while, he was emotionally unavailable and that has nothing to do with you, trust me. People have their preferences and he may not be ready for [i]any[/i] relationship with [i]anyone[/i]. Better you found out now, than wasted another few years on him. I had a book one time that really helped me. I'll see if I can find the name. I know it hurts bad, but hang in there. The guy that lied to me lives near me and I see him tons of times out and about, and it doesn't even phase me, and I had grieved [i]horribly[/i], thought I'd never get over it, but now I look at him and think to myself, 'Why did I even [i]see[/i] in that jerk? What was I [i]thinking[/i]?!!' He had the biggest ego, I've ever seen. You [i]will[/i] get through this! ❤️🤗