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May - September Love should be lived without ' compromise '

People believe lots of things , and there are many speculations . When it comes to couples involved in age gap relationships.

Fact s are unlike relationships where there is no significant age , it can take an individual within the relationship a while to process , several aspects that most average couple don't have to consider in the quite the same way .

For example , what will my family & friends really think? Will we have to deal with unwelcome attitude s from people within our circle? as well as random strangers outside?

Alongside these thoughts are concerns on how serious in the longer term will ithe other partner about the relationship as in ..have they really thought this through ?

But then when all these questions - are up there milling about in above their heads.

There is only answer -

The answer begins and ends with the couple in question.

It's centres around 'A leap of faith'

There's is absolutely no question about this.

Neither can the descion to trust in the love for each other - be side stepped or gotten around

Because its the couple which arrives at the conclusion, that living without each other in their day to day lives - is no longer an option.

Who step out of only existing within a grey- non vibable life .

instead choosing to be together, in the light of happiness & peace.

To even consider living any other way is an hypocrisy - love & hypocrisy are incompatible words .

If one or both of the couple feel for real or imaginary reasons , mostly concerning other peoples views or reactions -

That they can't ( yet) live in the light of their love for each other.

Then they need to acknowledge the gift they have experienced and keep moving. Love is something, while desired may not ..yet be an experience they are truly capable of appreciating.

And while in this instance I am speaking of relationship s where there is a significant age gap. This could also apply to other realationship configurations

True love once found exists to be shared & experienced ❤️ 💕❤️

Anything less is an affront to love it's self & simply won't do .

History proves many couples who truly love each ..just go for , they take that leap of faith .

And get on with living happy lives .
I know one man 👨 who married his teacher 👩‍🏫. She was many years older than he was. And when she became very old, he took care of her.

As far just having sex, some studies show that a teenage boy 👦 has a sex-drive compatible with an early thirties woman 👩 .

I have dated both younger and older women. The older women are great teachers and I often am the teacher with younger girls.

So, in my opinion, have relationships, no matter the age difference. I do not recommend marriage for couples with large age differences.

There’s also the Oedipus Complex- where girls are in love with someone like their father and boys are in love with someone like their mother.
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i heard something i liked once, i think it was 'love knows no age' or something like that
TheotherAndy · 41-45, M
@katiecantthinkofausername indeed, it can cross any boarder
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@TheotherAndy thank you 🙂
I have known a lot of such couples - and honestly they seem to work better than same-age relationships.

Maybe because they considered commitment more thoughtfully.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@Mamapolo2016 🙂 I would second that , I see thought , before venturing deeper into a relationship, the commitment has to seriously considered .
su4old · 36-40, C
Well said. I’m in an age gap relationship my husband is a lot older than me. He is 77 I’m 38 The stigma that surrounds even in today’s society is truly unbelievable, the amount of verbal abuse I have had just for being with and marrying someone a lot older has been nothing short of discussing but we just have to ignore the comments and worry about our lives not what people we don’t know think of us
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@su4old aww bless you & your hubs, congrats & well done to you both. For allowing love to win out.

As far as I see it true love knows no boundaries and if the couple are prepared to live in the shadows they simply not meant to be.

They need to keep moving along .

True love is magical & knows no bounds ✨
cuddles1266 · 70-79, M
Thank you for your words. I believe age gap relationships can indeed work out well. I know of a few and they are all older woman younger man. This seems to work well as the woman brings knowledge, stability, communication and a real sense of what matters in her life and gives/shares this with the male in the relationship bring light into his world.
There are always exceptions and an older male can bring these into a relationship too if he is in touch with his feelings.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@cuddles1266 Such a wonderful statement ..it's true to say that the younger male brings new perspectives ways of learning to the females life to.

Younger men I find are much more flexible in their ways of thinking then some older men too.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
I am in such a relationship, huge age difference. its only been about 3 years so its hard to say what will happen but for now all is well.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@reflectingmonkey btw when you say , yours is a " huge age difference" how many years?

In my realationship there's 26 🌼
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@Kae20 28 🤭
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@reflectingmonkey 🙂 thats alright x
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
I think it's best if the guy is older.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@Tastyfrzz 🙂 that's alright, is there a reason why?
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
@Kae20 I'm seven years younger in our relationship and after menopause all interest in physical stuff stopped. But, while it was hard for five years now my libido is also waning so maybe we'll make it.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@Tastyfrzz They do say that in older female / younger male realationships, the female increase - and male decrease in libido.. does eventually pan out .

Although I am told for many woman & couples, the menopause can be a physical and emotional nightmare

I do wonder if the females sex drive before this phase has any bearing on how she feels about sex during her change?
Because fact is there are many women enjoying sexual intercouse and everything else associated, well into there very senior years 70' & 80's

Can only imagine how much more satisfying it must be when the younger man concerned is man who she is deeply bonded & intimate with 🌼
Rambler · M
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
@Rambler thank you 🙂
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
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