Uhm i feel overwhelmed
Hey everyone,
I’m feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated lately. Here’s what’s been going on:
1.Overly Strict and Disapproving Parents: My parents are incredibly strict and overprotective. They won't let me go out because they're afraid I might get kidnapped, which makes me feel trapped and unable to develop independence. They also actively disapprove of my femininity, constantly criticizing aspects of my personality and appearance that they deem "inappropriate." This makes me feel judged and ashamed of who I am. On top of that, they force their beliefs on me, even when I disagree, making me feel pressured and controlled. Ironically, they then get mad at me for my lack of motor skills, as if being constantly confined and pressured hasn't contributed to that. It's a really contradictory and frustrating situation.
2.Parental Pressure: Beyond their disapproval of my personality, they have high expectations for my academics. They think I should prioritize school success above everything else, but I believe success is about more than just grades. It’s exhausting to constantly feel like I’m under their scrutiny.
3.Friendship Conflict: I have two best friends who recently had a huge fight. Bestie 1 accidentally broke Bestie 2's phone, which was already glitching. Bestie 2 is really upset about it, especially since her parents are strict and threatened not to buy her a new one if it happens again. Bestie 1 has also done hurtful things, like reporting Bestie 2’s TikTok, which made her lose connections with her friends. Now, Bestie 2 is guilt-tripping me for not taking her side, and it’s really stressful because I don’t want to choose sides. I feel like Bestie 2 is being dismissive of my feelings, saying things like "you don’t understand me" and "you’re not helping." It just feels rude and manipulative.
4.Phone Use Judgement: On top of everything else, my friends and parents think I use my phone too much. They label me as "insane" for it, which is just not true and really hurtful. I feel like they’re judging me based on their beliefs rather than understanding my perspective.
I’m feeling really stuck and unsure of how to navigate these friendships and the pressure from my parents. I want to communicate my feelings, but I’m worried about how they’ll react. Any advice would be really appreciated!
Thanks for listening. 💖
I’m feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated lately. Here’s what’s been going on:
1.Overly Strict and Disapproving Parents: My parents are incredibly strict and overprotective. They won't let me go out because they're afraid I might get kidnapped, which makes me feel trapped and unable to develop independence. They also actively disapprove of my femininity, constantly criticizing aspects of my personality and appearance that they deem "inappropriate." This makes me feel judged and ashamed of who I am. On top of that, they force their beliefs on me, even when I disagree, making me feel pressured and controlled. Ironically, they then get mad at me for my lack of motor skills, as if being constantly confined and pressured hasn't contributed to that. It's a really contradictory and frustrating situation.
2.Parental Pressure: Beyond their disapproval of my personality, they have high expectations for my academics. They think I should prioritize school success above everything else, but I believe success is about more than just grades. It’s exhausting to constantly feel like I’m under their scrutiny.
3.Friendship Conflict: I have two best friends who recently had a huge fight. Bestie 1 accidentally broke Bestie 2's phone, which was already glitching. Bestie 2 is really upset about it, especially since her parents are strict and threatened not to buy her a new one if it happens again. Bestie 1 has also done hurtful things, like reporting Bestie 2’s TikTok, which made her lose connections with her friends. Now, Bestie 2 is guilt-tripping me for not taking her side, and it’s really stressful because I don’t want to choose sides. I feel like Bestie 2 is being dismissive of my feelings, saying things like "you don’t understand me" and "you’re not helping." It just feels rude and manipulative.
4.Phone Use Judgement: On top of everything else, my friends and parents think I use my phone too much. They label me as "insane" for it, which is just not true and really hurtful. I feel like they’re judging me based on their beliefs rather than understanding my perspective.
I’m feeling really stuck and unsure of how to navigate these friendships and the pressure from my parents. I want to communicate my feelings, but I’m worried about how they’ll react. Any advice would be really appreciated!
Thanks for listening. 💖
13-15, MNew
