hate myself.

there was a guy I actually gave my all to, his name is **** and when i first met him i had fallen inlove so quickly he showed me love no other guy has later on he breaks up w me cause hadn't lost feelings for his ex, he started saying i was a cheater to his friends and i dont understand why i cried sm n he was getting w other girls. i still had his sweater and stuff i got back w him like a week or two w him and again he leaves me for wanting to focus on himself n getting to relationships to quickly which he still does and i dont get why he couldn't focus on himself while he was w me but he was able to focus on himself w other girls i cry n cry n cry and im finally starting to lose feelings but he gets a new girl and he gives her the same exact sweater. ifhy a.

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Mindful · 56-60, F

The hardest lesson to learn is to lean more your brain instead of your heart. Some one who says everything perfect, has practiced it many times, that’s why it’s perfect. His type is called a “player” and he will hurt women for the rest of his life- by breaking their hearts …I suggest you put off dating until your older and have studied the profile of a player- they are overly charming and very showy and will say they love you early on. :-(
Don’t hate yourself. Hate his type, face the pain, and understand that this is a type of person that will say anything to get physical or emotional pleasure

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Mindful · 56-60, F

@hellok1tty ah, then maybe it happened to help you understand you shouldn’t play with people’s feelings? I don’t know … what feels good isn’t always a healthy choice. I wish you less pain in the future :-(

hellok1tty · 18-21, F

@Mindful i only ever started playing people cause they always play me.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@hellok1tty that sucks.. but I understand. I would get mad at players… I have been played long ago

Xalvadora · 18-21, F

It seems to me that he doesn't know self-control. He said he wanted to work on himself. If he wanted to do that, if I were you, I would help him. By literally breaking him away from the relationships he told you that he keeps getting too fast in to.
Yeah, what he's doing will make you lose all feelings for him real quick, but if he really wants to work on himself, don't he there as his girlfriend, but as a friend. Give him that push. The push to start working on himself. There's lots of articles online and YouTube videos that you can watch to see how to deal with this, let alone how to push a person to work on themselves, and be supportive about it.

Now if he's telling you that he wants to work on himself as an excuse to break up with you, forget about him and move on. Guys like him aren't worth anyone's time.

hellok1tty · 18-21, F

@Xalvadora i can't be there a a friend w him cause all he does is mix my feelings around + he has a gf .

Xalvadora · 18-21, F

@hellok1tty As someone who thinks that someone can change, they just need that push, you don't necessarily have to be his friend. You could just be there and knock him out of his relationship. You don't need to date him again.

MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F

F that guy. You will find a guy that treats you good some day, don't let this jerk ruin it for you

hartfire

It's easy to make these kinds of mistakes when we're young. We are not yet good judges of people. Our emotions run deep because the hormones run strong.
Forgive yourself and treat the experience as an opportunity to learn.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

Yeah that sucks. Dating at that age never works, people don't know what's important, how to be healthy in a relationship, or plain don't priorities them. I'd say it gets easier later as people take it more seriously.

AuRevoir · 36-40, M

You need rest.. And to start dreaming of the one that will treat you better than that..

SW-User

Pffft he isn't worth it ...you will find someone better ...or they will find you

Sjones13 · 41-45, M

That’s sad. Hang in there and you’ll find a special man in due time

TeirdalinFirefall · 31-35, M

I mean anyone named **** is a red flag.

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