Babble Rant Venting
Dear SW Diary,
My best friend is in a controlling relationship for over 12 years she wont leave she doesnt want to. Shes essentially a caged bird. She wont leave because the guy makes good money and she thinks its easier to not have any freedom than work and provide for yourself (even though she does have a fulltime job) shes said she loves him and he buys her stuff.. whatever besides the point really just clarifying why shes with him.
Their house is like the big brother house. Therss nanny cams everywhere. He BF can see and hear everything that goes on in the house. He calls her throughout the day and he belittles here. She isnt allowed to do anything.
They had a baby shes 3 YO now. She still sleeps in a crib, bars up, in their bedroom ... and she turns 4 in April so she should be starting school but my friends BF wants her to work from home so she can homeschool their daughter because he cant watch her in school... shes clearly brainwashed or something because she thinks she can work 9 to 5 at home and homeschool her daughter and shes also pregnant with her 2nd so she will have a newborn on top of all that.
I tried to tell her thats insane and i have a newborn and i cant hardly take a shit let alone work and take care of a toddler all at once! Thats crazy! But she took it like i was judging her and got defensive. She said her daughter was the perfect baby that never cried and sat in her chair all day. I said okay but its not realistic to think all babies are that way.
I stopped and thought its not worth losing a friendship ive had for over 10 years to prove a point she clearly isnt allowing herself to see and she will learn the hard way anyways so i just offered support and told her online there are homeschooling curriculums she can print off.
Later on she messages me about my ex husband which is a triggering topic for me as i was mentally abused in that relationship for 7 years and she knows i hate talking about him but she goes on to say she knows i dont like talkong about him but she found a video online about a kid with OCD and on the spectrum who was screaming and having a meltdown over silly things and said that reminded her of my ex and i should watch the video ...
I reiterated i dont like talking about him. Im very happy in life right now and im very glad i eventually came to my senses and didnt allow myself to be miserable my whole life but id rather not watch the video and dont want to talk about him.
She responded with Hahaha ok going to bed goodnight ...
Like wtf was that about?
My best friend is in a controlling relationship for over 12 years she wont leave she doesnt want to. Shes essentially a caged bird. She wont leave because the guy makes good money and she thinks its easier to not have any freedom than work and provide for yourself (even though she does have a fulltime job) shes said she loves him and he buys her stuff.. whatever besides the point really just clarifying why shes with him.
Their house is like the big brother house. Therss nanny cams everywhere. He BF can see and hear everything that goes on in the house. He calls her throughout the day and he belittles here. She isnt allowed to do anything.
They had a baby shes 3 YO now. She still sleeps in a crib, bars up, in their bedroom ... and she turns 4 in April so she should be starting school but my friends BF wants her to work from home so she can homeschool their daughter because he cant watch her in school... shes clearly brainwashed or something because she thinks she can work 9 to 5 at home and homeschool her daughter and shes also pregnant with her 2nd so she will have a newborn on top of all that.
I tried to tell her thats insane and i have a newborn and i cant hardly take a shit let alone work and take care of a toddler all at once! Thats crazy! But she took it like i was judging her and got defensive. She said her daughter was the perfect baby that never cried and sat in her chair all day. I said okay but its not realistic to think all babies are that way.
I stopped and thought its not worth losing a friendship ive had for over 10 years to prove a point she clearly isnt allowing herself to see and she will learn the hard way anyways so i just offered support and told her online there are homeschooling curriculums she can print off.
Later on she messages me about my ex husband which is a triggering topic for me as i was mentally abused in that relationship for 7 years and she knows i hate talking about him but she goes on to say she knows i dont like talkong about him but she found a video online about a kid with OCD and on the spectrum who was screaming and having a meltdown over silly things and said that reminded her of my ex and i should watch the video ...
I reiterated i dont like talking about him. Im very happy in life right now and im very glad i eventually came to my senses and didnt allow myself to be miserable my whole life but id rather not watch the video and dont want to talk about him.
She responded with Hahaha ok going to bed goodnight ...
Like wtf was that about?