I asked to go down in hours at my bookstore/publisher job

I was grateful for the job, and have learned a lot from the owner but she is really hard to work for. She is mean, she snaps, she shoots the messenger (me) and everything is always my fault.

With my new manager job, I don't really have the time (it's more about brain space) to do as many tasks at that job and also remain competent enough to continue being a good employee at either. Not to mention the other jobs I do.

When I asked her if I could have less hours, she said no.

So I guess I am just meant to quit, then?

I want to give my two weeks but I am intimidated by her, and I feel guilty that I take care of all of her tech and computer stuff and she doesn't know how, so if I leave, it'll be really stressful for her.

And I'm afraid she'll badmouth me to other people and we live in a small city.

I need to do what's best for me but I am being a wimp.

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deathfairy ·

That sounds scary, hard, and annoying.

She sounds like an extremely toxic person, not just to work with, but for your soul.. You are aligned with softness and new energy, she isn’t fitting into your life anymore. Honestly, she sounds like the part of your life that is still linked to where others hurt you. Like that ex, like your family, like your heavy drinking, and your getting hospitalized for a bit.. that’s what it is still linked to. That part of your life. But that’s all part of your past.

I get your fear of being bad mouthed, but I guarantee she already is. She has already done it and will keep doing it. But think about it, who is she going to bad mouth you to? The people she is badmouthing as well?

She will be fine once you leave, ppl like that don’t let themselves suffer long, she will find someone else to do the computer stuff. She will be okay. It’s okay to leave her work to her.

caccoon · 36-40

@deathfairy I agree! She is a part of the toxic life and people I used to tolerate. I really can't anymore.

Thank you 💙💙 this helps. I am going to feel sick when I do it but I think I need to do it today