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Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
I don’t know how joyful it is to call all the shots. I’d love a helping hand or a caring partner to share the burden.
It feels real. You have to fight yourself for yourself because I think we’ve all learned at some point to follow the leader and stfu. But once that guilt is gone (looooong process), you do kinda feel refreshed. Purely you. Only thing is, it doesn’t mean anyone cares or will respect you more. You end up more alone and secluded because you don’t run with the herd.
It’s a separate journey from the masses who willfully surrender their truth in exchange for security.
When you call the shots on your own life, don’t expect anyone to understand 💔
It feels real. You have to fight yourself for yourself because I think we’ve all learned at some point to follow the leader and stfu. But once that guilt is gone (looooong process), you do kinda feel refreshed. Purely you. Only thing is, it doesn’t mean anyone cares or will respect you more. You end up more alone and secluded because you don’t run with the herd.
It’s a separate journey from the masses who willfully surrender their truth in exchange for security.
When you call the shots on your own life, don’t expect anyone to understand 💔
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@AlchemyFox If this helps, I once read a wonderful excerpt by a great life coach..Martha Beck. She said if you truly want real joy, you will need to stray away from or alter your path from SOME form of society. And that people will question you, but do not pay that any mind. I liked that. So even though you may sometimes feel alone, you are discovering a TRUE path, not one just from the masses. Iam trying soon to do as she said but it definitely IS not 'easy' as you said. I want to feel that*I* am choosing for my life now, EVEN if mistakes occur on the way...not just living only by what 'society' tells me. People MADE up these rules, and sometimes we need to honor our own self, and occasionally live by our OWN as well.
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
Not at all.
Society calls the shots. If it was up to me, I'd be a housewife and dog mom in a cute little cottage somewhere. But in order to get all of those things, I have to follow the rules of society and work a job I hate, just to try to achieve my dream after retirement.
Society calls the shots. If it was up to me, I'd be a housewife and dog mom in a cute little cottage somewhere. But in order to get all of those things, I have to follow the rules of society and work a job I hate, just to try to achieve my dream after retirement.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
@DearAmbellina2113 this was a reply I just made now, to another reply here...
If this helps, I once read a wonderful excerpt by a great life coach..Martha Beck. She said if you truly want real joy, you will need to stray away from or alter your path from SOME form of society. And that people will question you, but do not pay that any mind. I liked that. So even though you may sometimes feel alone, you are discovering a TRUE path, not one just from the masses. Iam trying soon to do as she said but it definitely IS not 'easy' as you said. I want to feel that*I* am choosing for my life now, EVEN if mistakes occur on the way...not just living only by what 'society' tells me. People MADE up these rules, and sometimes we need to honor our own self, and occasionally live by our OWN as well
If this helps, I once read a wonderful excerpt by a great life coach..Martha Beck. She said if you truly want real joy, you will need to stray away from or alter your path from SOME form of society. And that people will question you, but do not pay that any mind. I liked that. So even though you may sometimes feel alone, you are discovering a TRUE path, not one just from the masses. Iam trying soon to do as she said but it definitely IS not 'easy' as you said. I want to feel that*I* am choosing for my life now, EVEN if mistakes occur on the way...not just living only by what 'society' tells me. People MADE up these rules, and sometimes we need to honor our own self, and occasionally live by our OWN as well
DrWatson · 70-79, M
@Coralmist I do not feel I can make big decisions for myself: like where to live, or making huge purchases. I do have obligations toward my wife, and for that matter toward my job, which do place limits on how I spend my time. So I cannot just do as I please.
Perhaps that is the cause of so many people's "mid life crises."
Perhaps that is the cause of so many people's "mid life crises."
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
Life can call the shots ;how you deal with life is what matters.
And only the most selfish undisciplined person would be happy that they could do anything they wanted without consequences ,because doing whatever you want without consequences would bring a lot of hurt to a lot of other people.
And only the most selfish undisciplined person would be happy that they could do anything they wanted without consequences ,because doing whatever you want without consequences would bring a lot of hurt to a lot of other people.