If you've been there for someone because you liked them but at some point their life changed and they never said thank you?

How would you want them to make up for that so that you would regain interest in being with them?

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CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I think you shouldn't expect someone to be grateful for something you did for them on your own initiative when they never asked for it in the first place. Especially when it's you giving them your time.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@CrazyMusicLover then why did she seem to turn cold afterwards?

Torsten · 36-40, M

I dont do nice things for thank You's nor would i ask for anything in return like they owed me something for it

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Most people don’t say thank you for when we’ve been there for them and helped them. They just move on. Just think of it as though you entered their life to help them with this one thing and your job is done

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scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@Jenny1234 their motivation for being there for someone without them saying thank you or doing anything in return

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@scooogy sometimes there’s no motivation for being there. Read the Celestine Prophecy. Our paths cross with others for a reason; to either exchange information or to help the person or each other and most people we meet are not meant to stay in our lives for a long time. They are only in our lives until the job is fulfilled

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@Jenny1234 something tells me she hoped for me to ask her out on a date. But I was too focused on finding a job 😕

SW-User

I've never done something for someone for a thank you.
But yes, being acknowledged feels good and there have been many times I've not even got that.
But it's okay. I did what I did, because in that moment it mattered to do it.
That moment passed and if our directions have diverged, I am not going to force a rekindling of interest.

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@SW-User I've acknowledged her about her circumstances at her workplace and she seemed to appreciate that. Later after graduation when it all seemed to revolve around me finding a job, her interest somehow dropped.

SW-User

@scooogy It is better to ask her directly. Express your feelings and intentions and ask her if she is interested.

SW-User

I would hopefully look past and not make it about myself?

scooogy · 31-35, MVIP

@SW-User what do you mean?

SW-User

@scooogy Well, what changed? Everyone's life changes, always - and if there is a marked difference you see how they treat you - there might be a reason that has nothing to do with you, yourself.

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