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I feel like there’s a lot of unhealthy messages we get fed about love, compassion, and devotion that keep people in toxic relationships

This is a useful reference:
I think The phrase “toxic” is getting over played.
candycane · 31-35, F
@blokeinpub this is toxic

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WhateverWorks · 36-40
@blokeinpub I think the terminology is inconsequential. When a topic is an ongoing issue the terminology will be interchangeable based on the window of discussion, but the issue remains. The term itself is superfluous.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
A lot of the things written as "should never mean" are things that all relationships require. Sometimes you will fight, and then you will work on making up, this is by definition exhausting. It shouldn't be a cycle, but it will happen.

Relationship will require you to compromise and often times make large changes to who you once were. You can no longer live as if you have no one to care of and be loyal towards. Sometimes you have huge flaws that you will have to change if you want to make your relationship work, such as bad drinking behaviour/problems (which is extremely common).

If you don't already meet the expectations of your partner in the most essential things then getting together was probably already an unwise decision unless you want to change a lot. However, you will often have to conform to things even if you don't want to, this is part of the compromising that is important to keep both people at ease.

Relationships definitely consist of proving that you love your partner and then becoming deserving of that love. This should come natural to you as you try to make your partner happy, or if you have to try a little harder sometimes that's fine too. If you do not put effort into making them love you then the love you had can be buried by problems.

This was definitely written by someone newly divorced who never could find a partner to live a happy life with.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@WhateverWorks It's a meme now? Wtf now I'm confused. lol

Yes you elaborated just fine, but then you said that what I said was for people who are in toxic relationships which came out of the blue, so I responded with what I would tell to a person who actually thinks that is the case and truly understands my message.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
@MartinTheFirst

Meme, image etc irrelevant.

It’s not out of the blue given the header and context of the post is, “ I feel like there’s a lot of unhealthy messages we get fed about love, compassion, and devotion that keep people in toxic relationships”


@MartinTheFirst
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
AstroZombie · 36-40, M
"Should NEVER compromise your core values and change core aspects of you are." THIS is what I was told I NEEDED to do with the last person I talked to about dating or I was in the wrong....

In other words, the girl I was talking to would say this chart is wrong...
AstroZombie · 36-40, M
@WhateverWorks Well my friends have suggested she's never going to find anyone unless they behave that way too. Due to the whole forcing people to change and claiming unwillingness to change is "abuse." I don't think it's too far or too much to agree with that...mean spirited as it sounds.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I dunno.. not enough info. At any rare, if someone doesn’t value who you are then it’s time to move on. @AstroZombie
AstroZombie · 36-40, M
@WhateverWorks I did move on. Didn't even bother to start a relationship with her.
SW-User
I agree. And also the Twin Flame story people like to believe in.
Conversely, there is a lot of unhealthy messages about love and relationships that stop people from even exploring it or exploring it healthily.
Basically, just a lot of false message one way or another.
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
Dear twenty-thirty something me,
I'm sorry things like this never made it's way to you. You aren't crazy.

 
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