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Dino11 · M
Change the playing field.
@Dino11

Thank you.... I will be travelling in a few days... 🙏🙏
Dino11 · M
@Soossie ✌️
Virgo79 · 61-69, M
Get well Soossie🤗
Hydrate will help
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
I hope you're feeling better by now, sweet Soossie.🤗 💖

I'm in the same boat myself with anxiety, even though I'm hopeful. Leave it to the enigmatic to have two contradictory feelings.😏

For me, I can't distract myself from these feelings. It isn't an easy task, but I think sometimes, we need to feel them for what they're worth for a reason. Growth comes to mind as such reason. Personally, time has proven this to be my truth...

@MoonlightLullaby

Thank you so much sweet Moon Lady......😘🌹

Im so sorry that you go through similar feelings... but Im also glad that you understand those feelings and know their purpose....

Through years and in different situations, I have learnt that I have to go through my feelings to understand them, so that I will be stronger and they will be less confusing each time they come back....

Distracting my mind is usually short .... it helps me find a way to face my feelings in a better environment....🙏🙏🤗🤗🌹
MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F
@Soossie You're so very welcome.🌷
But yes, we are on the same page with ideas and one I'd already planned to make a post about.

No matter how unpleasant the feelings are, they're there to guide us, so. It's our responsibility to find out why, so pushing them aside isn't healthy.. All the darkness I've ever went through has led me to light and growth.
@MoonlightLullaby

I absolutely agree.... 🤗🤗🌹
SW-User
I hope by now you're feeling a lot better and shaken out of that feeling.
When I don't feel good, I tend to just sit with it and maybe try to get to the root of why I am feeling that way. But it can be unpleasant sometimes and when it's too much, I can just do mindless things like TV or if the mood takes me, read something.
@SW-User

I know you are strong enough to realize the way it helps.... My situation right now is out of my control and I dont know how to deal with it.... 3🤗🤗🌹😘
SW-User
@Soossie Soossie, you're very strong too. If a situation is out of your control, 'breathe through it', pray, take one day at a time. Maybe even one hour at a time. Talk to trusted people so it's not all becoming too big in your head, or write it out. See if you can find a way of observing it without attaching to it, or with detaching from it.
All of this has come out as advice/preach and I apologise for that. I'm sending you positive vibes and lots of love.
@SW-User

Oh darling!! Why are you apologizing fir being a good friend to me?? I asked, because I wanted advice.... In fact, I believe that praying and writting (what you have suggested) are going to help a lot.... 🤗🤗😘🌹
Wiseacre · F
Being here is distracting...when here, I forget my troubles!
@Wiseacre

Im glad that we have SW to come to when we have small or bigger problems.... 🤗🤗🌹
Wiseacre · F
👍@Soossie
Reading.

Writing poetry or a short story.

Designing (no money but the act of designing is fun, includes materials research):
- an eco-house I'd love to build and live in
- renovating the shack we're in
- a superlight and strong horse float
- an easy clean free-range chicken shelter, snake, rat & fox proof
- raised permaculture no-dig veggie-garden beds.

Time with friends.

Volunteering - helping with green community projects.

In no particular order.
@hartfire

Well done.... you certainly know what to do to distract your own mind .....
SW-User
Sorry to hear Soossie, music, reading films, my usual ways of coping.
@SW-User

Hello.... thank you..... I with certainly try that list... 🙏🙏
bookerdana · M
Sorry you're not feeling well.....What do I do...I guess meditate,or put on a movie,go for a walk...and always music.....stay strong ya never know what tomorrow brings🤗
@bookerdana

🥛🥛 cheers... thank you....
bookerdana · M
@Soossie I don't know if that emoji is milk or water but sure beats dry mouth
@bookerdana

My guess is milk.... milk is good... thanks.. 😘🤗
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
So sorry you are not feeling good.

When I get like that, I go to bed.
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
@Soossie

I will ask my landlord for help.

In the meantime whenever I hear ice fall, I swap the bin with a large bowl to catch the water. It is only for a few minutes. Then I swap back.

But it is off now, since I am away, at this place:

@JoyfulSilence

Awww!! Beautiful.... Hope you enjoyed... 🤗🤗
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
@Soossie

That fountain and shapes had a Middle Eastern / Islamic feel to it.
Abstraction · 61-69, M
I tell myself that I'm not in a good place. So today I'm not going to evaluate my life, myself or make any decisions. If negative thoughts come, I let them come and then basically put them aside because I'm not in a place to assess anything right now. I only do that when I'm centred.
This creates some space. It was one of my key strategies for getting out of fifteen years of chronic depression.
So from there I go easy on myself for today, knowing tomorrow might be better. I'm usually not in a creative space because of how I feel (otherwise I would turn to that) and so just any indulgent distraction, take a nap, go for a walk - especially in nature if I can. Go and see someone. Go out and sit in a cafe and do not much...
@Abstraction

That required self awareness, a focused mind, experience and more ..... you certainly have them all and I appreciate you.... I want to get there and I gradually will...

Thank you... 🙏🙏
Abstraction · 61-69, M
@Soossie Ah, a social problem. I was following that (if I've understood, which I probably haven't) and thinking about you.
@Abstraction

Thank you.... I know that you guessed right... 🤗🤗🙏
Busybee333 · 31-35, F
Breathe there for a while. Accept your feelings as they come. Remember that you have greatness in you and that although you are in discomfort, it is temporary. If a person is making you feel bad - try to first spend time with yourself apart, so that your own light can whisper to you what to do next. Do not be afraid to feel it all. If it is too heavy, do not be afraid to let it out (express it) in any form possible, even abstract. Do something that makes you relax. Anything. Try to take a walk - there is this magic about fresh air. These are the moments to take care of yourself and show love to yourself. when you feel better, try to observe the situation from 3rd perspective -the solution might just pop! Wishing you to feel lighter and livelier again soon :)
@Busybee333

Thank you..... it is about a social matter about which I have even less control... having said that, your solution which is a much better than escaping from it all, can help me to deal with my feelings...🤗🤗🙏🌹
Reflective · 36-40, M
Connect to your heart ❤️ Feel the physical feeling that comes with an emotion without telling yourself a story about why you’re feeling bad.

It will hurt but once you feel it the pain will subside. Our pesky brains love having something to do and if you let it it will drive you in circle to try and understand why something is the way it is when really we just need to feel it and move on.
@Reflective

Better way to understand our feelings .... thank you... 🙏🙏
Purplehaze78 · 46-50, F
I may be the weird one but when i get undesired situations, i clean 😹. I swear anything i clean gets really clean and sparkly ✨️ 😁.
Hope you find comfort and the distraction you need 🤗🤗🤗.
@Purplehaze78

Lol... I used to be like that until I aged.... 😂

Thank you sweet lady... 🤗🤗🌹
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I listen to music, read a book, put on a favourite show, exercise, play a game with my kids.

I hope you feel better soon 💖
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Soossie I hope you are feeling better
@iamonfire696

Thank you beautiful... 🌹🌹
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@Soossie You are so welcome 💖
Soosie, so sorry you're not feeling so good. The situation unfolding in some regions can make one feel so helpless. It's truly tragic.
Your mind must be in turmoil.
Thinking about you and hoping you keep safe..
@Majorlatency

You know what is going on, about which I cant talk in here.... thank you for understanding.... thank you for your comforting words... 🤗🤗
@Soossie Yes I do. I'm so sorry you have to hide your emotions and fear. I will say no more except your love has no boundaries. You are a beautiful lady in mind and spirit. Keep safe my friend...
@Majorlatency

Thank you....
pearllederman · 61-69, F
how come you dont feel good, maybe you should see a doctor
@pearllederman

Nothing personal..... just some social problem.... thanks sweetie... 🤗🤗😘🌹
ShadowWorker · 61-69, F
I can't. 😔 I have an unquiet mind.
But I've learn that time and patience can solve many ...undesired situations.
That in itself helps me.
Blessings to you.
ShadowWorker · 61-69, F
@Soossie just got on here seconds after your reply. Thank YoU! ....
I have a few years on you. Hopefully I'm growing old gracefully 🙃
You are a beautiful soul. Take care of yourself! 😘✌
@ShadowWorker

Why, Thank you so much... 🙏🙏💖🌹
ShadowWorker · 61-69, F
@Soossie 🙏💞
I will listen to the Les Crane version of the "Desiderata" this wonderful work of music set to inspired lyrics usually works to change my focus to a more positive mindset. Love you.
@Grateful4you

Fantastic taste in music... good choice.... thank you and love you too dear David... 🤗🤗
@Soossie Glad to hear you liked it honey. Hope you're in a bit better mindset tonight. Love you.
HikingMan · 51-55, M
Music of a positive nature and dancing alone in my living room.
It sounds as weird as it probably looks.
But one thing I've learned in all of my years is that it's very hard to be despondent when you're dancing.

As weird as it sounds, I'd suggest you try it.
@HikingMan

Uh!!! I do that all the time.... specially when feeling down.... feels really good... thank you... 🤗🤗
Read a good book.
@hartfire

I will.... thank you... 🙏🙏
Livingwell · 61-69, M
That's a tough one. I try to think or even better, work on a hobby.

Thinking of you. 🤗
@Livingwell

Thank you my dear friend... 🤗🤗
Sepia · 36-40, F
By walking away.. somewhere where I can own my space.
@Sepia

Wonderful way to deal with an undesired situation.... thank you... 🤗🤗🌹
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
Music can help calm me down when I'm feeling anxious. Especially Christmas music. Perhaps your own faith has holidays that utilize calming musical collections as well?
@VeronicaPrincess Mariah...[i]All I Want For Christmas Is You[/i]
@VeronicaPrincess

No dear Veronica.... we dont have any... but music of any kind can help.... thank you.. 🤗🤗🌹
Sweetpoison · 36-40, F
It depends what the problem is
@Sweetpoison

Thank you... 🙏🙏
BeJeweled · F
I went thru something traumatic a few months ago.
What helped me was to set up flowers and hummingbird feeders to attract hummingbirds.
I felt so relaxed and peaceful sitting on my deck. It really helped!
I hope you feel better very soon.🤗🙂🌷
@BeJeweled

Thank you.... what a beautiful way to calm and relax... 🤗🤗🌹
Here’s a hug for you! 🤗 ❤️

Listen to music. Write about the things that make you happy or that you’re thankful for.
@CookieCrumbs

Thank you beautiful friend... love you much... 🤗🤗🌹
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
Read, listen to happy music, dance, go for a walk outside, spend time with friends

I'm so sorry you're not feeling well. Sending you a hug!
@ChampagneOnIce

Thank you beautiful..... I will try some of those ... Im sure they will help... 🤗🤗🌹
ChampagneOnIce · 51-55, F
@Soossie I hope they do, and you’re soon feeling better. 💖
@ChampagneOnIce

Thank you sweetness... 🌹🌹
Tracos · 51-55, M
I go for a good bicycle ride with some engaging music to burn off the black energy...

..and typically by the time I get home again most of the darkness has cleared
@Tracos

I love this solution..... really, I do.... thank you....🤗🤗
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
Read something light.

Hope you feel better soon sis 🤗
@HeavenBesideYou

Social situation.... getting more intense... sweet and bitter moments.... sad and hopeful... 🌹🌹🤗
HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
@Soossie Big hugs and strength to get through it ok, from me to you. 💗😘
@HeavenBesideYou

Thank you beautiful.... 🤗😘🌹
Barny52 · 56-60, M
Headphones music then keep busy while dancing
@Barny52

Good solution..... love it ... thank you... 🤗🤗
SW-User
I empty the fridge 👀
@SW-User

Lol... that is why I dont go grocery shopping when I feel bad... 😂

Thank you.. 🙏🙏
alan20 · M
With me I listen to music, walk, look on the internet for holiday offers, drive, try to think positively but realistically about things. Hope things look brighter for you soon. 💚
@alan20

Thank you dear alan.... a good list... 🤗🤗
calicuz · 51-55, M
Usually come to SW, and wait for politicos to lose their stuff...................... always entertaining.
@calicuz

Lol.... do they ever lose their stuff??

Thank you dear Calicuz.... 🤗🤗
calicuz · 51-55, M
@Soossie

Yes, when they can start a good argument...lol...
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I find getting outside and going for a walk or run really helps as does just going to the store or walk around the mall.
@Jenny1234

Thank you..... I love your list... 🤗🤗🌹
I find being in nature helps but sometimes just a good night's sleep too
@SlippingAway

Both sound helpful... thank you... 🙏🙏
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
I chain smoke and hold my stomach. Or i take pills to make me pass out , if i can.
@Eddiesolds

Then I really hope that you will never feel bad.... 🤗🤗
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@Soossie Thankyou Soosie.🤗
OldBrit · 61-69, M
Music. Listening or playing.
Reading.
Films.
Just keeping busy in someway with cleaning, gardening, DIY etc
@OldBrit

Mostly, I've been doing cleaning, garfening,music and tv... they are helpful... thank you my friend... 🤗🤗
@InOtterWords

If I can concentrate... thank you kind lady... 🤗🤗🌹
@Soossie try a book you have read before and that you love
@InOtterWords

Such a good idea... thanks... 🌹💖
Mooed78 · F
Hi sorry you are not feeling good.. When I am really down I distract myself by walking outside in nature. The exercise helps..when the body moves it helps move the stress and trauma away. 🤗.. I learnt this from my therapist
@Mooed78

Hi kind Mrod... I wnt to gym and did some exercise today ... It really helped... thank you.. 🤗🤗🌹
Mooed78 · F
@Soossie Yes great. It always helps 🥰
xbandoleerx · 56-60, M
It all depends upon the nature of reality being faced. From some there is no escape. One has to face them squarely
@xbandoleerx

It's not a personal situation... it's a social one and it's killing me to see what's going on....

Thank you....
xbandoleerx · 56-60, M
@Soossie In that case there is no point in comparing the existing with the past. Accept it as it is.
@xbandoleerx 🙏🙏 I will try...
Justme22 · M
Walk outside or listen to music. It is like a warm blanket for my mind and soul.
@Justme22

That sounda lovely... music is going to be my choice too.... 🙏🙏
Sleep
Set priorities
Do some activities to get rid of thoughts
Meditation
Learn something new (language or read a book)
Go out for a walk
Many things 🙂
@littlepuppywantanewlife

A very good helping list.... thank you..🤗🤗
@Soossie welcome. I really hope you can feel relaxed 🤗
@littlepuppywantanewlife

Thank you.. 🙏🙏
I’m so sorry, my friend. If I’m up to it, I sometimes will watch a movie or tv show I enjoy. If I can eat, I’ll fix something light and delicious. Sometimes a hot shower, glass of wine and a nap helps. I hope you’re feeling better soon. 🤗
@bijouxbroussard

Thank you lovely Bijoux.... I think I will drink a glass of wine and listen to some music... thank you again.. 🤗🤗🌹😘
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
I don't escape.
I write.
@rrraksamam

Good way to help.... I feel my mind is paralized that's why I cant write... thank you tho.. 🙏🤗🤗
Pfuzylogic · M
i listen to soothing piano like Phillip Glass.
Daniel LaMois just came out with something new called Player, Piano.
He produced for Peter Gabriel, U2 and Bob Dylan.
[media=https://youtu.be/Lz9KhpRUhfY]
@Pfuzylogic

This is lovely .... that list includes all my favourite musicians... no wonder...

Thank you dear Pfuzy... 🤗🤗
Pfuzylogic · M
@Soossie
My google feed told me about Daniel LaMois yesterday. He has a new release come September 23rd. I do hope you enjoy and distract your mind my friend. 🤗
@Pfuzylogic

Will look for it.... thank you.... but before that Im going to fix myself a drink... 🤗🤗
JustNik · 51-55, F
Oh poor dear - I’m sorry to hear that! You had just recovered, too. 🤗🤗🤗 If I’m reasonably functional, I go for a book, a game, or making something. If I’m a useless pile of brainless goo, I find an old favorite movie or show and let it work its magic. I sure hope you’re better soon! ❤️
@JustNik

Thank you beautiful.... I guess Im going to gaze at a movie... 😂
🤗🤗🌹
What's up?

If you need to use flights of fantasy to step away, in mind, you already have a rich store of all you need: great memories of lovely times with special people in lovely, amazing places. In memory, you can revisit, relive, savor whichever events you wish, with no equipment, etc.

You can think of music you love, replaying it in your head...I used to be able to go through Tchaikovsky's [i]1812 Overture[/i] in my mind and come out within ~90 s of the recording I had burned into my memory...but you can stretch out the beautiful bits, compress/skip over other bits...you are the producer of your mind's experience.

You can think of poetry you've read or written...and write more!

You have an amazing mind...you can use it as your chariot to a better place.

😊🤗🤗🤗
@SomeMichGuy

Grateful for you... and to you...
@SomeMichGuy Beautifully said, I couldn't have expressed this better.
@Grateful4you Why, thank you for your very generous words. 😊
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@RogueLoner

Physical activities can get you exhausted which is good during undesired situations....
I make lists of positive aspects of my life. I walk in nature, which helps me to connect with my [i]own[/i] nature. I meditate, watch an enjoyable movie, listen to some of my favourite music. I talk with a loving friend.

🤗🤗 💕😘
@PhoenixPhail

Good ways... I should try some of them... 🙏🤗 thank you...
Lostpoet · M
Read, run, or just walk around outside. I also recite poems and quotations in my head.
@Lostpoet

Glad to see you have so many ways to distract yourself... 🤗🤗
Lostpoet · M
@Soossie I've had many reasons to

 
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