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What defines who you are?

I read today that our actions don't define who we are. So what does define who we are if not our actions?

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AbbySvenz · F

AllAboutLaffs · 70-79, M

@AbbySvenz This is true !! ... 😋

QueenOfTheNerds · 41-45, F

Intentions, maybe? But actions are usually pretty clear.

SW-User

Not sure I fully agree with that
Nature-thoughts-intention-action or inaction
Sometimes

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

Whoever wrote that sounds like a self-centered narcissist who doesn't want others to define him/her. Others define us -- rightly or wrongly -- and what else could they define us by than our actions?

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Carissimi · 70-79, F

Actions can be misleading, although they are very important guide posts. Our perceptions of another’s actions can also be erroneous. @dancingtongue

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

@Carissimi Others can misread our actions, I agree. But unless our actions support our thoughts and words, they can reveal our own self-deceptions.

morrgin · F

@dancingtongue you deserve a celebratory dance☺️

TexChik · F

The culmination of what I was taught and life experience.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

Actions mostly but I'd add intentions, thoughts, habits, choices, skills (or lack of them) etc.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

@Melpomene the law also recognizes intent , not just the action.

Melpomene · 22-25, F

@AthrillatheHunt Ofc, it's not the same whether you killed someone on accident, in self-defense or planned it

kodiac · 22-25, M

I think it's our reactions that define us.

QueenOfTheNerds · 41-45, F

@kodiac I agree with this so much.

kodiac · 22-25, M

@QueenOfTheNerds Seems like the only thing i can control the rest is random .

SW-User

Your thoughts.

Stillwaiting · M

@SW-User Very different to think it vs do it, literally legal differences

morrgin · F

@Stillwaiting I think everyone would be in jail

nowic2 · 61-69, M

If not actions, maybe attitude. But it seems to me actions are reflected by attitude, behaviour, personality etc. So I would have to disagree with the premise. It seems it's just a way to diminish poor behaviour.

morrgin · F

@nowic2 I think you got it exactly right

Carissimi · 70-79, F

I think it may be our intent. We very often act against our own will. Going a bit deeper, the intent of our heart, and it’s purity, once we peel back all our insecurities and hurt. I’m not sure.

Mamapolo2016 · F

I don't know. Your actions are what defines what's important to me about you. Doesn't matter much what you MEANT or WANTED to do.

morrgin · F

@Mamapolo2016 thats what I thought as well

MiserableAtBest · 18-21, F

Our actions are a direct reflection of our character, intentions coming in second place.
Who the fuck said that?

morrgin · F

@MiserableAtBest a quote by Justin Bieber supposedly and it was posted by a diagnosed narcissist on their Instagram

scorpiolovedeep · 46-50, M

Our life experiences…. reading , listening , interaction with people / nature / spirituality , observation , moments , memories …. I think

Iwillwait · M

Your thoughts, the true you is hiding underneath, with a very different dialog. That's the real you.

SW-User

Maybe not your [b]past[/b] actions or mistakes, they shouldn't define you to become a better person .

OogieBoogie · F

Oh pfft🤔

I wrote a long winded reply about actions, but then got thinking...

And I think its our choices that define us .

What we choose to say
What we choose to do
How we choose to be .

SW-User

Actions do define you ...but you get to choose how you are defined

Stillwaiting · M

These cancel culture and SJW mfrs seem to think they do

zerofuks2give · 41-45, M

Websters

morrgin · F

@zerofuks2give clever🙂

zerofuks2give · 41-45, M

@morrgin Not really, I’m a fucking moron

morrgin · F

@zerofuks2give morons sometimes have the best insight

antonioioio · 70-79, M

Our personality

morrgin · F

@antonioioio would you say our personality is reflected in our actions?

antonioioio · 70-79, M

@morrgin sometimes but not always

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

Whether you like pineapple on pizza.

morrgin · F

@StevetheSleeve I love it

DisturbOne · 41-45, M

Confused and dangerous lol .

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

Penis size

morrgin · F

@AthrillatheHunt that reminded me of a scene on Night at the Museum when the Roman guy says " We may be small, but our hearts are large - metaphorically speaking"

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

@morrgin those Romans had more wisdom than the Greeks. Lol

ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F

What we think of ourselves maybe🤷‍♀️

PhaqueYou · M

Nothing defines me.

Keepitsimple · 51-55, F

My heart and mind.

ClassicRocker · 56-60, M

Deeds not words

Mrballs · 70-79, M

Manfredthemanic · 16-17, M

A combination of genetics, epigenetics, and probably some other unknown factor. Science! 😊

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

That has to be part of the overall picture. They speak louder than words.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Experiences in life and the way you are raised.

SW-User

I don't agree with that premise. Actions define who you are.

Thoughts and ideas are all good and well but they mean nothing without corresponding actions.

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