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Have you ever felt ....

You had no identity? From either past abuse, trauma, etc.
Or felt inhuman? How did you, or how do you think one can feel human ? What would that look like?
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Ambroseguy80 · 51-55, M
Nope I’ve always had an identity.
SwampFlower · 26-30, F
No, I have had to create so many versions of myself to please people that it's hard to pick which one, though.

This sounds a bit elementary but I started by making a list of my traits and beliefs. Then I crossed out all of the ones that had been imposed onto me. That left me with a list of things that were genuinely "me" to grow and develop.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@871066,SwampFlower] Good idea thank you 🌼
SwampFlower · 26-30, F
[@562099,Coralmist] I think you'll find that you've had an identity all along. She just had to hide for too long.

I hope you meet her soon ❤️
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@871066,SwampFlower] Ty truly. I feel like I don't exist Sometimes. I want to feel human and free 😢 Thanks again.✨
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@1208102,Barry] That's very kind of you but I don't know how really.
quitwhendone · 46-50, M
There have been times when I wondered who I am.
when I moved from girlhood into womanhood there was a plateau

an idk what's happening here with me, something should pop up like a peak on the horizon so I can find out what's there and how I should approach it
Mindful · 51-55, F
I have sort of overly protected myself from future emotional harm due to my empath like vulneerability? Yes. I miss feeling, but I’m so much more emotionally stable by guarding myself.
SweetMae · 61-69, F
I have. I had to focus my attention on the future. I realized I was robbing myself of precious days I could never get back.

I hope you feel better soon.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@10109,SweetMae] Thanks Mae 🌸
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Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@482591,CopperCicada] I'm sorry you have too. I try to find my likes, desires, or passion but even if I identify some of them , they're just words really. I think the repression of any thoughts or feelings I had growing up (none were allowed, even good, sad, mad, anything), made my identity squalor away. I've read it's common for people who have trauma in past. But HOW does one create an identity????
GhostPoncho · 51-55, M
Ego disassociation can be beautiful or terrifying. I’ve had both..
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@903658,GhostPoncho] I'm sorry. Yes it's like on the one hand my esteem is so low that I'm not arrogant/egoic or a drama queen. OTOH, I don't have good boundaries with others/feel less, put my needs always last and feel I don't have rights anyone else does. It's a horrible feeling to think you don't have a right to joy, and the feeling of being such a people pleaser/slave that you feel like you have NO identity. I'm going to try therapy again ...I TRULY want healing. I hope you can find it too🌼
GhostPoncho · 51-55, M
[@562099,Coralmist] It sound like you may feel disassociated because of depression. I’m glad you are going to get some help.
Leggs · 46-50, F
Beyond a certain age, nobody really cares who anyone else is anyways.

We go to work and all we are is "Expendable labor".
Around the neighborhood we are just another nuisance.

The only thing we can really do is look out for number one.
Coralmist · 36-40, F
[@1073121,Leggs] I mean though to not get walked on you need some type of identity..like I deserve such and such, I stand for this or that, I'm valuable etc. In some way. 🙁
SammyJo · 51-55, F
We are all a sum of our parts, and, just like a ven diagram, they overlap and people see just certain aspects of that 'personality'...

I have always had a sense of who I am, but I have had people close to me just see me as a particular aspect.

The prostitute thing is the main one. With people just seeing me as this has been quite upsetting at times in the past...but, as you get older, you get used to people's particular way of seeing you...

It is what it is...

SJD x

 
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