So I learned from my mother
There was a gay man who presented as a woman when she was young and that didn’t tell the straight men they dated they were biologically male. Basically they were chased after and killed. Scary stuff. My mother said those very old school guys who are macho don’t want their manhood insulted. So they would rather pound the person to death than send with the shame that they couldn’t tell the person they were dating wasn’t a female. That’s scary.