No matter what, you’re still responsible for your own energy and the way you direct it toward others. I’m not here to willfully accept your negative energy. Toxicity is a huge problem in the world today and it’s because no one can be wrong and no one is put in check.
I’m happy to be respectful and even help solve a problem, but there’s zero chance I’m going to be your doormat or lose my right to happiness in the process.
Take your attitude and go suck the life out of someone else. I’m going to enjoy life - smiling. We’ve all been through shit.
If you’re that miserable, go bang Eeyore.
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@Adogslife Great commentary. I agree. We aren't peoples keepers.
@Adogslife Offering understanding is not the same as letting toxic people abuse our understanding.
If we see it as repetitive behavior, we cannot just tolerate that and let them get away with it. As you said, we shouldn’t allow anyone to treat us like a doormat or a dumping site of their bad attitude.
@CookieCrumbs I do agree. A lot depends on your relationship with the “offender”. If it’s a friend, of course you’re more tolerant. If it’s a stranger, my personal leash is much shorter.
I’d also say that women are (generally) much better than I am displaying empathy. I’m certainly kind and calm, but I’ve never really earned my empathy merit badge.
@Keepitsimple No, we can’t. Sometimes we wonder if people just don’t like us because they weren’t warm and friendly. What we don’t know is they could be dealing with a major life challenge.
Ive had the chance lately to see this, at my work . People who are mean , cruel and downright deliberately awful .
And i feel sorry for them.
Sorry they spend so much time schceming to hurt or make peoples lives difficult.
It means they hurt and feel so bad , they can only hurt others to feel better.
Im so glad im not them .
To feel so insecure and weak , that you need to go out of your way and lie , or nitpick , or demean others is a weak way to live, ( or work ). And must be a a whole hell of a mindset.
To compete, to strive to 'win' against co-workers.....is so trivial .
And it makes me see how trapped they are. When your work becomes yoir identity - itcmeans you dont have a life . And i feel sorry for the ones who only find power and idenity in their job..........with no life outside it 😔
@OogieBoogie I like this comment/example. Thanks for sharing…
It means they hurt and feel so bad , they can only hurt others to feel better.
I feel sorry for those people who find “their happiness” in dumping their 💩 on other people. As you mentioned, they feel their power when they are able to hurt others.
@SweetMae We can only try our best in varying circumstances. Sometimes we could really suspend that judgment, but other time we wonder: “what’s wrong with you?!” 🤦♀️
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Human relationships can be difficult if there's bad communication. Sometimes you can only guess... And just hope they're well.
This is an excellent reminder and I do try to follow the suggestions... however, I have to admit that when someone gets right in my face and goes all ignorant, my caring for what they are experiencing slips... a lot.
There is a difference between offering understanding and tolerating people’s bad behavior.
Tolerating toxic behavior is like enabling people to continue doing it, not only to you, but to others as well.
I think the important thing is for us to be able to discern what/who needs compassion and understanding, and who needs to be put in their proper place.
@Ghostinthemachine We can never be perfect at doing this. But with awareness, we can at least make an effort to pause before making conclusions about a situation or person.
